From a post to the Jack’s Winning Words blog comes this thought – “Positive thinking is not about expecting the best to happen every time, but accepting that whatever happens is the best for that moment.” (Lori Schneider) Are you thinking positively?
There are tons of books and thousands of motivational speakers all of which talk about the power of positive thinking. I’ve even posted bout it here a few times, usually following a theme of having a positive attitude. As I looked back over a few of those posts and as I look at today’s quote, one word stands out across them all – “accepting”.
One of the key sources of frustration, anger and even depression in people is the in ability or unwillingness to accept things as they happen. We rail against the storm and refuse to accept the outcomes of life. We question why they have happened to us and why our God would allow them to happen. The really pathetic thing is that we allow small setbacks or issues in life to become the things that drive us to take actions that mostly make things worse.
A snub at a social event or the rejection of a romantic invitation may become the spark that ignites a bitter feud or causes a friendship or relationship to dissolve. Being passed over for a promotion at work may cause a funk that leads to depression and hurts our home life, sometimes leading all the way to divorce. Maybe the death of a loved one causes us to question our faith instead of leaning on it for strength. We just can’t accept these things or other happenings in life. We can’t figure out the answer to the question, “Why?”
By using the word “accepting”, I’m not advocating that you give in to a temporary setback or defeat in life, only that you accept that it happen, put it into proper perspective and move on with life. I wrote a post here last August titled “Did anybody die?” that focused upon dealing with many of the smaller issues in life that we tend to obsess over in our day to day lives. That post was aimed at people who tend to let the small failures that occur in their day to day lives get to them – being late for a meeting, missing a small milestone or perhaps even a small rejection or snub. Positive thinkers don’t dwell on the last failure or snub, they focus on what needs to be done to make the future better.
The thing that holds us back from accepting things and moving on with life is our need for closure, our need to try to understand, our search for an answer to why things happened or perhaps our search for someone to blame for what has happened. I wrote about that back in 2016 in the post “Are you moving on?” If we are to become positive thinkers we must be moving on and not let ourselves get stuck in the past or present, mired down by doubts, anger or fears.
One of the most powerful tools that you have at your disposal for overcoming life’s curve balls and setbacks is your faith. Faith makes you strong enough to absorb the blows that life lands on you and allows you to keep focusing upon the future. Ralph Abernathy once said – “I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds the future.”
Faith allows you to accept things by saying/praying to God, “I don’t understand why this happened, but I accept that is part of your plan for me. Give me the strength to get through this and to go on in life.” If the pain that you are enduring is caused by the loss of a loved one, refocus on all of the good times and good memories that you had with them. Those times were God’s gifts to both of you.
The bottom line on all of this is that positive thinking is not starting each day with the attitude that everything is going to come up roses and that no bad things will happen in your life. Rather it is starting out each day with the attitude that you are ready to deal with anything that life brings you way today in a manner that give you the best possible outcome. Sometimes that is just being able to put it behind you and move on.
Have a great and positive day today and remember what Ralph Abernathy said about your future. You are in good hands (not an Allstate commercial).