July 5, 2019
“I’d like to be remembered for the way I went about doing my job.” (Goose Gossage)
That quote, from today’s post to the Jack’s Winning Words blog, begs the question that is today’s post title. I suspect it is only as one gets older that they begin to think about that question and the answer that they would like people to remember them by.
There are all sorts of ways to be remembered – many good and many not so good. For many men the answer expressed by Goose Gossage might apply. Men tend to identify themselves with their jobs and most would probably like to be remembered as being successful at those jobs. Some are thrust into heroic acts in their jobs or lives and will undoubtedly be remembered forever for those acts. Most are not heroes, in that sense, yet you often hear someone being eulogized as being a hero or role model to someone else.
Perhaps that is the best way to be remembered – as someone who lived a life that others want to emulate. You hear them remembered as a good and kind and generous human being who cared about others and went about helping others. That is a great way to be remembered. So, perhaps the best way to rephrase what Gossage said is to change the ending and say, “I’d like to be remembered for the way that I lived my life.”
A good way to get on track to be remembered that way is to start each day with a little prayer – “Lord help me live this day in a way that I will be happy to remember.” If you do that, others will remember you that way, too.
How would you like to be remembered?
June 26, 2019
From today’s post to the Jack’s Winning Words blog comes this inspiration – “It’s easy to make a buck. It’s a lot tougher to make a difference.” (Tom Brokaw)
We begin each day faced with lots of choices – what to wear, what to have for breakfast, what route to take to work and many more. Add to that list the simple question, “What can I do to make a difference today?” and maybe that will put you in the right frame of mind to go out and make that difference. Making the world a better place is a pretty big difference making challenge to throw at yourself the first thing in the morning; so. maybe start with the goal of just making a positive difference in someone else’s life. Something as small as a smile and a friendly “Hello” or holding a door open for someone can make his or her day better. Acts of kindness and consideration make a difference, one person at a time. Will you make a difference today?
If you have a goal to make the world a better place through some larger change, keep in mind that those changes take longer and that you may only be able to accomplish small increments on any given day. Keep at it, even though the evidence of change that day may be imperceptible. Persistence goes hand-in-hand with making a difference. Maybe you are collecting signatures for some ballot initiative and today your goal is to get another 10-20 signatures. Keep at it. You are making a difference, however small today. Maybe you are saving your change each day, so that you can contribute to a worthy cause. Keep at it. Your nickels and pennies are adding up. Maybe you only have a little time after work that you can devote to helping coach a little league team or perhaps help at a local food bank or shelter. It makes a difference that you are spending that time making a difference in the lives of others. Will you make a difference today?
If you are hungry and I give you food; does that make a difference in your life? If you are cold and I give you a coat to wear; does that make a difference in your life? If you have nowhere to sleep tonight and I contribute to the local shelter; does than make a difference to you? If you are seriously injured and you receive the pint of blood that I gave at the Red Cross; does that make a difference to you? If you suffered through a tornado that destroyed your home and the Red Cross uses the money that I contributed to provide you with shelter; does that make a difference to you? Making a difference comes in all sizes and forms; however, it almost always starts with a single person making the decision to make a difference by giving or their money or time. Will you make a difference today?
We often start our day by praying for God’s help in our own lives. We pray for the strength or courage or wisdom to get through a tough problem at home or at work. Maybe we pray for success in our business life or for help in resolving a conflict in our personal life. How many of us pray for the opportunity to help make a difference in someone else’s life? That opportunity is the chance today for you to meet Jesus. Jesus said in Matthew 25 – For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me. When the disciples said that they had seen or done none of that, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”
Will you take the opportunity to meet Jesus today? Will you make a difference today?
June 21, 2019
From a post, some time ago on the Jack’s Winning Words blog comes this thought – “Generosity lies less in giving much than in giving at the right moment.” (Jean de La Bruyère)
I would submit that the time is always now – when you see the need, be generous. It is all too easy to pass by the beggar on the corner or homeless person and think I’ll give some day or I’ll stop and help next time I see them. Perhaps it hits you as you pass them bye, “There, but for the grace of God, go I.” If so, then let that grace show thought in your generosity, right then. Maybe you won’t have enough left for your double latte with whipped cream on the way to work, but you’ll feel a lot better all day long than that latte would have made you feel.
Generosity doesn’t always have to involve giving money. Many times what is needed is your time. Volunteering at your local shelter or food bank or at a homes for habitat project is being generous with what is arguably your most precious asset – your time. There are too many opportunities to volunteer in every community to list. Much of the “work” that needs to get done doesn’t involve anything strenuous. I know of one local volunteer who spends time at nursing homes reading books to the residents. Sometimes just being there to visit someone who is shut in is the task that need to be accomplished. Just pick one or a few and be generous with your time.
When Jesus was leaving the disciples, after his death and resurrection, he gave them a new commandment – “Love one another as I have loved you” John 15:12
There is no better way to show your love for your fellow man than to give generously of your money and time to help those in need. There is no better time to be generous than now – when you see the need. Find your way to be generous this weekend.
The moment is right.
June 20, 2019
Two posts in the Jack’s Winning Words blog that I get every day seemed destined to be in juxtaposition–
“My mom used to say, ‘No one is worthless, Jonny, they can at least be a good bad example.” (Jon Hanson)
“There are three classes of people: those who see, those who see when they are shown, and those who do not see.” (Leonardo da Vinci)
Jonny’s mom knew that she was speaking of people who just don’t see. They refuse to see that the things that they may do or say out of prejudice or fear could be hurtful or maybe they just don’t care. They become the bad example that makes the newscast at night or that others use as an example of bad behavior. They are the people that give terms like “bigot” or “charlatan” or “sex offender” a face and form. We know who they are and in most cases, they know who they are. They have been shown, but they just don’t care.
In order not to join that group, one must at least be a person of the second type that Leonardo mentioned – someone who sees once they are shown. Many of us grew up in homes where there may have been prejudices expressed and perhaps even acted out. I certainly did. Once I started thinking and seeing for myself, I was able to sort out the truth about those prejudices from the fears that they were based upon. Vestiges of those early knee-jerk reactions to certain people or things remain in the back of my mind, but I am now able to see them for what they were. I hope I have not been the good bad example in front of my children, grandchildren and others. I try not to be.
There are special glasses that are used by various groups against drug and alcohol use that demonstrate the impact of alcohol on the body by distorting what you see so completely that you cannot do simple tasks like putting colored pegs in holes on a board, even though you can “see” through the glasses. Prejudices are like that for your life. They are the lens that you see life through that distort things and render you unable to function properly. Once you understand how to stop looking at life through those lenses, you can actually “see” the people and things that you are interacting with and life becomes much richer. Hopefully, you will come to understand if you are wearing those lenses or someone will tell you and then you will see.
What type of person are you? Do you see or at least consider and see things differently if you are told; or, are you so stuck in your ways that you cannot bring yourself to see any alternative to your set beliefs? When you encounter someone who is different from you, do you have an immediate reaction that dictates how you interact (or avoid interacting) with them? Have you thought about that? Has anyone told you that your preconceived notions are wrong? Can you see that it is wrong or at least wrong not to be open-minded enough to re-evaluate why you are reacting like that? Don’t be the good bad example. Take off the glasses of your prejudices and see?
June 18, 2019
A post some time ago on the Jack’s Winning Words blog contained this little gem – “Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” (Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
That got me to thinking that it also isn’t just about looking in the same direction but moving in that direction – taking life’s journey together. You often hear from divorcing couples that they are going in different directions and that may be a very apt description of what has happened in their lives. The common direction that they thought that they had, based upon physical attraction and the heat of passion, turned out not to be the way they wanted to go, once the passion cooled and time started to take its toll physically. It’s all about the journey together.
True love is not about the heat of the moment but about the journey through life. It is about being able to reach to your side when you are uncertain or afraid and grasp the hand of the one person that you know will be there for you and with you. It is about sharing moments, both proud and disappointed, and events both good and bad It is about supporting and being supported. . It’s about being able to look back and smile at what you’ve been through together and look ahead in anticipation of all the wonderful things yet to come. It’s all about the journey together.
One hears often from long time partners the phrase, “I couldn’t have done it without him/her.” Unsaid is the thought that I wouldn’t have wanted to do it without that partner. God knew that Adam needed a partner in life and created Eve. Ever since then, men have sought their partners for life’s journey. When it is real and lasting, we call that bond love. It’s all about the journey together.
Have you found your life partner for the journey through life? I’ve been with mine for 53
“Image courtesy of Simon Howden / FreeDigitalPhotos.net”.
years now and we’re still looking forward together. Enjoy your journey through life with someone that you love. It’s all about the journey together.
June 17, 2019
From the Jack’s Winning Words blog comes this piece of advice from Tim Conway – “I’ve never really taken anything very seriously. I enjoy life, because I really enjoy making other people enjoy it.”
Tim Conway was my favorite cast member on the old Carol Burnett show. He portrayed many clueless characters and often brought the other cast members to tears of laughter during routines that they were trying hard to get through. What a great philosophy for life – to have fun by helping others have fun.
Most of us need to lighten up a bit (some a lot) in our lives and stop taking ourselves so seriously. Very few things in life are truly life or death situations and even in those cases there is humor to be found, if one looks with the right attitude. The heavy burdens that we think we are bearing in life are often of our own making. Some of us are way too critical of ourselves and way too serious about things that mean little to others. We beat ourselves up more often than life deals us real blows.
So; before we start out on a new week, perhaps we should lighten up and give ourselves a break. Then, maybe we can start to enjoy life more. I’ve posted here several times that taking a little time for prayer first thing in the morning is a great way to start your day. It’s a little easier to face the day in a good mood, once you have gotten yourself right with God and accepted His forgiveness and love in return. Maybe then you can focus upon making others’ day better, too.
There are many ways to share the good news of Jesus and God. One of the best is to be a living example of the happiness that comes with acceptance of God in your life. You don’t have to go around preaching all day or standing on a soapbox loudly proclaiming God’s love – just show it in the way that you live and the way that you interact with others. The message will get across.
Lighten up and enjoy the week ahead. Makes a few more people smile.
June 15, 2019
It seems that everything is a “hack” these days. The use of the term hack is getting a bit hackneyed, i.e. overused, overworked, overdone, worn out, timeworn, platitudinous, vapid, stale, tired, threadbare. Hack that all you marketing types who can’t think of a better way to say something than to call it a hack. This morning I even got and email from L.L. Bean with the headline “Camping Hacks”. It was about camping gear and clothing that they sell.
What the heck is a hack, anyway? If you look up the term hack the definitions tend to center around the original computer terms for illegally gaining entry into a system or program. The more traditional definition of crudely chopping away at something is also there. What’s not there is a definition that covers the current use of the term as somehow representing a new of different way of doing something or using something. Hacks for living seems to be a very modern and inventive way of using the word. It apparently is supposed to be shorthand for describing something that the writer didn’t want to take the time to write out, so it becomes a hack. According to the web site Daily Writing Tips, The term hack, which entered general usage with a new, nontechnological sense of “solution” or “work-around,” as in the phrase “life hack”.
Our language is full of terms that seem to come and go with each new generation. Many of them last only a short time before that are discarded onto the junk heap of misused and overused words. I’m sure that hack has already peaked and is on it’s way out; however, for now, we all have to put up with lazy writers of ads and other material using this convenient term instead of taking the time to write out a complete thought.
I guess I was never on the hack bandwagon, so my headline today is not accurate. I could describe the type of posts that I normally place here as “life hacks”, but I won’t. They are usually just common sense advice written from a faith-based point of view. I suppose a belief in God is the ultimate life hack, since that is the solution to most of life’s perceived problems.
So hack your day by starting off with a little prayer time with the ultimate life hacker – God. Have a great weekend, fellow hackers!