Seek wisdom within…

February 12, 2019

Today may end up being another of those days when one ends up with time for introspection. It’s either that or go shovel the snow and ice; and I’m not ready to shovel, yet.

Perusing through some quotes about wisdom, I happened upon these two –

 “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Rumi

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”  ― Aristotle

There were also a number of quotes on wisdom that pointed to the same conclusion – namely, that realizing that you know nothing is the start of wisdom.

protestersI suspect that many of us when through a “change the world phase” in our lives, maybe more than one. It is only later in life that we realize that we were trying to make the world over into something of our own desires and not necessarily for the betterment of humankind. Of course, at the time we firmly believed that what we wanted was for the good of humankind. Hubris always seems to precede humility in life.

As one ages, there is more time spent on the topic of knowing yourself and hopefully on becoming comfortable with that self-knowledge. I’ve posted here a few times on the topic of knowing, accepting and loving yourself before you can love others – see I Like Me and Just be Yourself, both of which I wrote back in 2014.

Maybe you can turn this snow day into a know day. Spend some time just with yourself,bored with your thoughts and dreams and with your fears and fantasies. Get to know yourself and try to better understand how those inner feelings influence how you react to the people and things going on around you.

The more honest insight into yourself that you can achieve, the better equipped you will be to deal with the things that happen in life; and, the more that you selfie stickan come to love yourself, the more able you will be to love others. I posted “Take a Life Selfie” here back in 2017 and maybe it’s worth a re-read today, too. It’s certainly a day when you may have time for taking that life selfie and reflecting upon it.

Have a reflective day.

I hope you end up happy with what you see in your life selfie.


Take a “life-selfie”…

March 10, 2017

The smartphone selfie has become the predominant way of capturing and sharing big moments in our day-to-day lives. Selfies capture where you were, who you were with and what you were doing that seemed so worthy of a picture. Still, at the heart of it, selfies are all about me. Selfies provide a way to capture those, “Hey, look at me” moments that you just feel you must share with others; even is those you share them with could care less.

Perhaps, if it were possible, you should mentally take a selfie of your life and then take a selfie 1hard look at it yourself. Are you where you want to be in life? Are you surrounded by those that you really want to be with in life? Are you doing the things that you really want to do in life? Take a good hard look at your life-selfie and ask yourself those questions and more. As Socrates said – “The unexamined life is not worth living.” A life-selfie may give you a way to examine your own life.

Oft times we get so swept up in the day-to-day activities of life that we fail to really think about why we are even engaged in them. We think it is normal to get up each day and get started again on the path that we were on yesterday. We have to work, even if we don’t particularly like our jobs, right? We have to interact with the people that we find ourselves with on a daily basis, even if we don’t particularly agree with them or even like them, right?  We have to continue our pursuit of the things that are defined as indicators of success, even though we may not really want them, correct? We just have to accept the lives that we are living and go on, yes?

new-way-forwardThe answer to all of those selfie reflections is no; we don’t have to just continue down the current path. We have been given a free will and the ability to change our direction at any time. The momentum of life may try to carry us along the old path, but we can break free and chose a different path. The key to making that decision probably starts with that life selfie and a critical evaluation of what we see in that picture of our life. That review doesn’t mean that you have to beat yourself up for past life decisions; but it does mean that you need to be brutally honest with yourself about where you are in life and where you really want to be.

Honestly deciding that you are not happy with your current path in life and then deciding that you will continue in that direction doesn’t make any sense; nor does dropping everything and making a radical change in direction all at once. The better outcome from examining an honest life-selfie would be to make a conscientious plan to make the changes that are needed as quickly as can be accommodated without total disruption inselfie 2 your life. Some things might be easy to fix immediately; perhaps stopping a bad habit or stopping your association with bad people who may lead you astray. Other things, like making a job change to find something that will both provide the necessary income and make you happier, could take a while and require careful planning. At least you will know that you have made that choice, based on your life selfie and you may start feeling better about the future right away.

One thing that a life-selfie might show you is how out of balance your life has become; how you have let certain aspects of your life take over and push out other aspects. Have the requirements of your work caused you to push aside the needs of your family? Have the requirements of your busy life caused you to push aside the time for your religion? Have the time commitments that you are pulled to make in your busy life caused you to lose having any time for yourself?

norma-nickolosonLocal life coach and author, Norma Nicholson, has published a book called Living a Balanced Life which might give you some perspective, in addition to your life selfie, on the things that you might need to consider doing to change the direction of your life and get it back in balance. You can find out more about Norma at Norma’s advice in her book will help you see the areas that you need to give more priority to in your life to achieve a more balanced and satisfying life. It all starts with that life-selfie and the thoughtful evaluation of what you see there.

So, let’s all get our selfie-sticks, smile for the mental camera and take that life-selfie. Then take the time to reflect on what you see and whether that is what you had in mind forselfie stick yourself. If you see things that need to be changed in your life, make a plan and start those changes. You don’t have to continue down a path that you don’t really like. Making changes, bused upon this evaluation of your life-selfie is not selfish; however, it is self-serving and that’s a good thing. The next time that you take a life-selfie, after you make those changes, I think you’ll find a different person smiling back at you.

Have a great and self-fulfilling weekend!