Open a new door today…

September 30, 2023

I remember years ago watching The Price Is Right with Bob Barker. There was always a segment in each show where the contestants were given a choice of three doors, behind which was either a great prize or a bust. These days there is a wedge on the Wheel of Fortune prize wheel that is either worth $10,000 or is a Bankrupt. Contestants who land on that wedge must make the choice to move forward with what they have already won or take the chance on that wedge being worth $10,000. Open a new door today.

Life presents many instances where we are faced with multiple doors – multiple courses of action. The doors that we are presented with seldom present the choice of $10,000 or bust; however, they do often present the choice to try something new or to meet someone new or to ignore them as you pass by. Open a new door today.

Life presents us with many choices every day. Behind each choice (each door) lies the unknown. Some doors may be marked, “Danger, proceed with caution”, while others just look innocuous, no matter what dangers lie beyond. One may be stopped by the real or imagines dangers and never open any doors; or, one may be cautiously optimistic and open doors only after getting prepared for whatever might be behind them.  There are those also who blithely open all doors with little regard for the potential consequences. Open a new door today.

The most common doors that we are faced with each day involve personal relationships – whether to return a greeting from someone or ignore it; whether to return obvious affection or hold back; whether to commit to a relationship or spurn it out of fear or unwillingness to commit. Those are doors in our lives. There may be wonderful things behind those doors. Occasionally there also might be a bust. You will never know unless you open the doors. Open a new door today.

There are few things as sad as ending a day or a life with only memories of what you “coulda, woulda, shoulda” have done, with only a gallery of unopened doors in your memory. Life will take care of presenting the doors to you. It is up to you to make the decision whether to open them or not. My advice is to go big or go home. Open a new door today.

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Could it be me?

September 25, 2023

From a reprint of the blog Jack’s Winning Words comes this thought provoker – “The trouble with thee is often me.”  (Pastor Bob’s bulletin) During my ministry I always included a Sentence Sermon in the Sunday bulletin, a short, positive message for worshippers to take home with them. I note that Preacher Bob did something similar, as with today’s quote.  Bob reminds us that when we find fault with someone, there’s the chance that the fault can be with both of us, or with me, alone. Let today be one of self-examination…and self-improvement.  😉  Jack

Jack Freed passed away but the best entries from his blog of many years is being re-posted by his son.  I almost always found inspiration in Jack’s posts and this one is no exception.

All of us can suffer from the fault of looking at others only through the lens of our own morals, tendencies or standards. If “they” aren’t doing it the way that we would, it must be wrong. If “they” don’t look like me or dress like me or act like me, they must be feared or shunned. It is amazing how often the rest of the world is wrong when we are sure that we are in the right. Could it be me?

But let us examine for a moment the unthinkable – that I may be in the wrong. What causes the reaction of uncertainty or even fear when I am approaching a person who looks different from me? What drives the dismissal of the opinion of someone younger than me or of a different sex. What causes me to turn away from someone in need rather than offering to help? What basis is there for so firmly believing in something or someone when clear and plain evidence would suggest otherwise? Could it be me?

“I was wrong” are three of the hardest words for us to say; yet they are the key to freeing oneself. Freeing from what? Freeing from the limitations that one imposes upon oneself by experiencing the world around them from the limited perspective of their prejudices and fears. Freeing oneself to explore beyond the boundaries of the boxes that we have put ourselves in through misconception and misunderstanding. Could it be me?

So, today resolve to break out of your self-imposed prison, admit that maybe you were wrong, and experience new things and meet new people. Approach others with a sense of wonder and interest rather than fear. Open your mind to new points of view. Try new things, new foods, new music, new clothes. Life does not have to be dull, nor does it have to be dangerous. Change “Could it be me” into “That could be me”.  

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Be a blessing…

September 23, 2023

I often hear people say, “Have a blessed day.” I have never heard anyone say be a blessing today. Yet, as this graphic points out, if you are a blessing to others, you will have a blessed day. How does that work?

First, we must understand what it takes to be a blessing to others. That is usually pretty simple, but sometimes hard to achieve. Being a blessing in someone else’s life usually means doing something for them – performing some task, lifting some burden, or maybe just removing some barrier that is holding them back. Sometimes is may mean giving some money to help them out or to paying for the repair of something. It can mean as little as opening a door for someone or as drastic as laying down one’s life to save another.

We see stories on the news quite often about first responders, or even ordinary people, rescuing someone from a car crash or from a burning building. They were a blessing that day. How can we be a blessing in our day-to-day lives?

I think the main things are that you need to be aware and you need to care. Being aware means paying attention to those whom we encounter during the day. It is all too easy to have your eyes cast downward, perhaps towards your phone, so that you miss the looks of desperation or hunger or fear in the eyes of those whom you pass. You cannot help if you cannot see and recognize the need.

The second part of being a blessing is caring enough to act when you do see someone who needs help. Again, it is all to easy to just pass them bye; to say to yourself, “don’t get involved.” Jesus used the parable of the Good Samaritan to help his followers understand how to be a blessing by helping and not just passing bye.

I understand that not everyone has the time to stop and help in every situation of need that we may encounter; but, I think it is important to always have in the back of one’s mind the question , “What can I do to help?” There will be many opportunities for which you may have the time as well as the inclination.

At the start of each day, resolve to be a blessing to someone that day and at the end of the day look back and be thankful that you could help someone somehow. You were a blessing. What a blessed life you lead.

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The development part is up to you…

September 21, 2023

Potential is an interesting concept to explore. According to the dictionary –

po·ten·tial

/pəˈten(t)SH(ə)l/

adjective

having or showing the capacity to become or develop into something in the future.

“a two-pronged campaign to woo potential customers”

noun

latent qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to future success or usefulness.

“a young broadcaster with great potential”

Notice that both definitions use the word develop (or developed). If you leave off development all you have left is “latent quality or abilities showing the capacity to become something in the future.”

We are all born with endless potential; however, realizing one’s potential is not a passive thing. It requires that you take steps to develop those abilities and capacity to be something or someone different. It is a fair statement that many are born into circumstances that may hinder or seem to limit the realization of their potential. Those circumstances may slow or make the development of their potential more difficult. Yet we hear and see stories quite often of people who have overcome great disadvantage or adversity to rise to greatness, in sports, in politics or just in life. It is noticeable and notable that many athletes pause after a success and thank God. Perhaps that is a clue for you, too.

So, if you haven’t already, start the development process to realize your potential. Set your goal(s). Layout a plan and identify milestones that you will need to hit. Break the plan down into small, achievable steps. Perhaps take the time to ask for God’s help. Most importantly, get started.

The difference between potential and the reality of achieving that potential is effort. That part is up to you. Develop your potential. And remember to pause as you succeed at incremental steps of your development to thank God for your unlimited potential and his help with the opportunity to realize it.

Make the effort. Reach for your potential.

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Just don’t stop…

September 20, 2023

What do Confucius and Fleetwood Mac have in common? Both advise that you not stop…

And from Fleetwood Mac’s 1977 hit song “Don’t stop” come these lyrics –

If you wake up and don’t want to smile

If it takes just a little while

Open your eyes and look at the day

You’ll see things in a different way

Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow

Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here

It’ll be better than before

Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone

Why not think about times to come

And not about the things that you’ve done

If your life was bad to you

Just think what tomorrow will do

Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow

Don’t stop, it’ll soon be here

It’ll be better than before

Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone

(listen to the whole song here.)

Confucius was advising persistence and the Fleetwood Mac song was pointing to hope for tomorrow. Both are important. It would be hard to be persistent if you lost hope for tomorrow.

Another key thought in the Fleetwood Mac song is the line “Yesterday’s gone, yesterday’s gone.” One cannot get to tomorrow by constantly reliving yesterday. If something bad happened, it is over. Move on. If someone did something bad to you, forgive them and move on. If you did something stupid or bad, forgive yourself and move on. Do not get stuck in yesterday. No matter how slowly, you must move on.

I have explored in earlier posts some suggestions for moving on –

Are you moving on?
Close that chapter and move on…
Keep moving but be at peace…

and most recently –

So, get back up and move on…

So, whether you take your advice from a Zen master or a rock and roll star, don’t stop. Just let go of yesterday and move on into tomorrow.

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Nobody said it would be easy…

September 19, 2023

In yesterday’s post I talked about viewing life as a journey and advised that you embrace and enjoy that journey. I also mentioned that the journey might take you through some dark places. Those are the difficult roads that you might hit. I did not say yesterday that making the journey would be easy. There will be difficult stretches along the way.

That might involve setbacks to the progress that you’ve made or perhaps the loss of someone who was making the journey with you or at least supporting you on the journey. Sometimes it may feel like you’ve hit a pothole in the road – a sharp but very temporary jolt. Other times the route ahead might feel precarious, as if you are creeping along on a mountainside trail with a scary drop if you make a mistake. Perhaps it just feels like the road ahead stretches out to the horizon with no destination in sight.

Perhaps the biggest key to navigating difficult roads is letting go of the illusion that you can somehow control the future. At best, what you control is your reaction to the future. Only God can control the future. And speaking of God; a good first step in reacting to difficult turns that your journey might take is putting your trust into God. I use the little prayer, “Not my will but thy will be done.” That simple little prayer takes the burden off me, allows me to forgive myself, if I am the cause of the problem that I am facing, and frees me to move forward.

Overcoming adversity also requires patience and perseverance, two traits which seem to be in short supply these days. In our “immediate gratification” world having to patiently wait and being persistent in our efforts is frustrating. Many would rather just abandon an effort rather than seeing it through to the conclusion. It is possible to go through life achieving just those small things that you can get done quickly; however, those who take that route never achieve greatness and live a life that is much less satisfying.

So, do not be afraid of the difficult road. Be patient. Persist. Trust God to take care of the future. At the end pf that difficult stretch of road lies the beautiful destination of satisfaction.

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That’s what makes it exciting…

September 18, 2023

Today’s graphic provides a good reminder to just enjoy life (the journey).

The path in our journey through life is never clear or without surprises. That’s what makes it so interesting. Some may choose the word challenging. But is out of those surprises and challenges that we learn and grow.

How boring it would be if one just got up each day and sat around doing nothing in the same place all day long, every day. You might think, “At least I’m safe because I did not take any risks”; however, you would also have no answer to the question, “What did I learn today?”

Will you see new things? Will you meet new people? Will you experience things that you have never experienced before? Take the journey and find out.

No matter how hard you try, you really can’t stand still in one place for very long. Life is a journey and you must move forward into the unknown. You really have no choice; you must take the journey, so what not enjoy it. Embracing the journey, as the graphic message says, can be as simple as wondering each morning, “I wonder what life has for me today”, and then heading out with enthusiasm to find out.

Sometimes the journey might take you through dark places. It is then that your faith will provide the light for you to see the path through to the other side. Other times you may reach a point in the journey that has been your goal for a long time. If that happens, set new goals, search for a new purpose, and continue the journey. A win in life is but a welcome waystation along the route of your journey.

Maybe I’ll see you or you’ll see me. Wave if you do and I’ll wave back. Sometimes you’ll meet people who are headed in the same direction as you and they may become friends or more. It’s always nice to have someone to share the journey with; but, in the end, it is your journey. Embrace it.

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So, get back up and move on…

September 11, 2023

On this 9-11 anniversary, remember the advice that Pastor Jack Freed shared in 2006 –

 “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”  (Confucius) Many of us recall sadly seeing falling buildings and falling airplanes five years ago. Our country remembers and our country shall recover. It’s the same way when we have “falls” in our personal lives. We shall recover! 😉  Jack

For those who were alive at the time the events of September 11, 2002, will never be forgotten. People will remember where they were and how they found out about the attack and how horrible it felt to witness the fall of the towers on television. The resulting shock and confused lasted for days as Americans tried to process feelings of vulnerability and anger. Suffice it to say that our world changed forever that day.

Jack used that momentous example to give us advice about our personal lives. I write here quite often about perseverance and dealing with adversity. Falling or failing are natural parts of our lives and each of us develops some process for dealing with those setbacks. Some wallow in self-pity or perhaps enter a state of denial. Most of us take a pause, some just to recover from the initial pain of the failure and some to start using that failure as a learning experience for future attempts.

No matter how you deal with a setback the most important first step is to get back up. Even those who wallow in self-pity eventually get back up and realize that whatever it was that happened, it did not kill them. They survived, so what is next.

It is important to refocus from the past (the event or trauma) onto the future – the “what’s next” – to recover and move on with life. And move on one must. In hugely tragic scenarios, such as 9-11 and the recent earthquake in Moraco, moving on might involve dealing with the loss of loved ones, perhaps with everything except your life. Those are the times in which your faith is tested and during which it may be your sole (and soul) support. God had a purpose for sparing you and you must now focus upon discovering and fulfilling that purpose.

Many times, those who survive and recover from traumatic events become inspirational figures for others. Some embrace that role and become motivational speakers. Most just learn to live with it and humbly accept becoming a role model for others.

So, the bottom line in Jack’s message and all of these words that I have written is to get back up and go on with life. The world moves on, life moves on and you must move on, too. If you need someone to lean on; lean on God, who has a purpose for you.

Get up, find your purpose and move on.

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To be a better you…

September 5, 2023

The Best of Jack’s Winning Words 9/5/23
“When you forgive, you live. When you let go, you grow.” (Sent by Sandi) INC. magazine published an article on How to Be a Better Person. Practice forgiveness was one suggestion. Be open to change was another. Others: Let go of anger; Be honest; Listen to what’s being said; Be polite and respectful…and there were more. The point is that we’ve all made mistakes. If we want to grow beyond our failings and be a better person, it begins with action on our part. 🙂  Jack 

The gist of Jack’s message in that post was that you must do more than just wish you were a better person; you must take actions to change. Forgiving and letting go are two of the most important actions that you must embrace.

Forgiving and letting go are not just actions that you take towards other, but important steps with yourself, if you are to grow and live the life that you dream about. You must forgive your past mistakes and learn from them. You must let go of any hate and anger that you have of yourself from your past, accept who you are now and move on.

Wallowing in self-pity or self-loathing is a recipe for failure and despair. You can’t undo the things that you have done or unsee the things that you’ve seen, but you can look past that rearview mirror and focus on the road ahead. The past never changes, but the world in front of you is ever changing and demands your full attention.

Take that first step. Stand in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eyes. Then say out loud, “I forgive me.” Say it until you mean it. Say it until you feel yourself letting go of the past. You have put your past out of your way forward. If you need help with this step, try the little prayer that I’ve posted here many times, “Not my will, but thy will be done.” Surrendering to God’s will is a powerful way to let go.

Now, take that next step into your new future. It’s time for you to grow.

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I dare you…

September 2, 2023

The truth is far from that line of reasoning. Most people will actually think more of them for having tried, even if they failed. Moreover, failure on an initial effort is not the end; it is the beginning of learning and adapting. Failure is an integral part of the process and a step along the way to that better life that you’ve always wanted.

For most people the dare in today’s graphic will remain something that they dream about but don’t do. Why? The biggest reason for most is the fear of failure. They don’t even try because they fear failing in the effort. They think that they will embarrass themselves or their loved-ones in that failure. Retreating to the comfort of not even trying seems to them to be the best decision.

It is an interesting phenomenon that just by trying you are already living that life that you dreamed of. In the process of achieving the things that you have been imagining you are turning the dreams into reality – a new reality for you; something that you always wanted.

One cannot usually just jump from one life to another. You cannot achieve everything that you’ve dream about by just snapping your fingers (that only works in Marvel movies). It will usually take work and perhaps great effort to live that dream life; so break the journey down into small achievable steps and step off to that new life. Just getting started is a victory and you should celebrate it and all of the other small victories that you achieve along the way.

And when you have setbacks (and there will be setbacks) turn them into learning experiences. You now know something that didn’t work. Figure out a different approach and step off in that direction. Keep your goal in front of you and let it continually inspire you. Don’t be too proud or too stubborn to ask for help when you need it. Start by asking for God’s help. You can’t get a better companion on your journey.

Finally, stop, stick your head up, and take a look around from time to time. Another interesting thing happens to many on these journeys toward a dream – they find a place along the way that suits them just fine and they decide to stay there. That’s OK, too, so long as you made the decision to stop and you feel good about where you are.

Go on. Dare to live the life you’ve always wanted. I dare you.

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