“There are seven days in a week, and Someday isn’t one of them.” (Rita Chand) – both the headline and this little sentence were seen on the Jack’s Winning Words blog. Jack went on to write – Fogerty’s parents were divorced when he was a child, and he remembers his dad saying, “Someday you’ll understand.” And then he found himself repeating the same words to his 5-yr-old son. There are kids who ask their dads, “When are we going fishing?” And dad responds, “Someday!” There are many things in this life that we put off until…Someday. Maybe today is the day to do something about Someday.
Did your parents ever use that phrase, “someday you’ll understand,” with you? Did that someday ever arrive for you? Maybe you’ve promised yourself that, “Someday, I’ll get around to doing that.” Are you still waiting for that someday? Someday is even more nebulous than tomorrow, which is also a day that never seems to get here when you’ve put something off until it arrives. This weekend, I finally got around to fixing a light on our back porch that I had promised I would do someday. I made that promise 5 months ago. Someday was a long time in coming.
Of course someday is also featured in our hopes and dreams, such as in the song “Someday my prince will come”, from the Disney movie “Snow White and the seven dwarfs.” Are you waiting for your prince or princess to come, someday? Someday is also the timetable for our “bucket list”; the things that we’ll get around to doing someday, before we kick the bucket. There is comfort to be found in the inexact commitment of “someday” for items on that list. It allows us to put of those things that scare us.
I think the saddest someday of all are the ones that we use to put off doing things with our children. It turns out that someday they won’t be children anymore and by then it will be too late. Taking the time to go fishing with your 7 or 8 year old is more important than almost anything for which you may be putting it off. Don’t wait to find out that all of those rain checks and IOU’s gave your children expired tears ago when they grew up. “One day you will wonder what was so important that you put off doing the most important things. ‘Someday’ can be a thief in the night.” ― Deborah Brown
Another someday that never seems to arrive is the one where you stop working so hard to provide the things that you think will make your family happy. What would really make them happy would be for you to be there now, not someday. Their games and the plays and the concerts are going to happen someday. You’re likely to find that they
happened yesterday, if you wait until someday to make the time for them. It is often sad to see a father dancing with his daughter in her wedding day with tears of regret in his eyes that he missed her growing up years. The someday that he kept promising her never came and now it’s too late. Don’t let that happen to you. Resolve to dance with her every year and at every opportunity.
Finally, someday is not the commitment that you need to make with the person that you love. Rather, you should show her/him that love every day. Waiting until someday to ask that person out or to share you true feelings for them may well be too late. Perhaps Mark Twain said it best when he said – “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.”
Perhaps the best advice of all to deal with “someday” comes from Gaddy Bergmann – “Someday is now.” Cut to the Nike slogan and Just Do it.