Three little words that can change your life… Let’s talk trash!

April 21, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

From one of my favorite sources of inspiration – the blog Jack’s Winning Words – come today’s three little words –

“Let’s talk trash!”  (T-shirt Slogan)  A study has shown that each American creates 4.5# of garbage every day…close to a ton a year.  Tomorrow is Earth Day, and the suggestion has been made…to see if you of can go the whole day without creating any garbage.  I’m going to try; how about you?  Maybe we should put a reminder note by the waste basket.   There are many ways to protect the environment.  Do you have any ideas?      😉  Jack

 

OK, so it’s not talking trash like you might have initially imagined. Earth Day is tomorrow April 22. Earth Day is one of those days of celebration that can easily get lost in the calipee of daily life. It’s easy for some to dismiss it as a gathering of “tree huggers” or environmental busybodies; however, we are all along for the ride on planet Earth, so we all play a part on how our ride looks. Do you know someone whose ride looks more like a waste container on wheels  than a car – full of empty coffee cups and fast food bags? Maybe you live next to someone whose yard could serve as the set for a horror movie, with old cars up on blocks and junk lying around everywhere. Maybe you should intercede and say to them – let’s talk trash.

In your daily life do you spend any time at all thinking about how much waste and trash you contribute to the problem? Where does it all go? If you said, “to the curb in the trash bin”, then you are a part of the problem. It’s where it goes after that which is the issue that is one of the central themes of Earth Day. You’ve probably driven by those huge mounds of trash in land-fills and maybe you’ve wondered about what is going on under all of that trash and dirt. What chemical reactions are taking place and what toxins are being released and then where do they go? Those are all concerns on Earth Day and reason enough to raise the issue – let’s talk trash.

One of the other focuses on Earth Day is to create and promote the use of natural products or sustainable products as they might be called; these are products that are not artificially made, but which occur or grow in nature. Some of them are products that can be recycled and used more than once. Most of them are not harmful or certainly less harmful than many of the modern man-made products that have been created as substitutes. Most will also naturally break down and return to the earth in the some useful form; or at least not in a toxic form. Hopefully these are the substances in the things that are put out for recycling and which will not contribute to eh landfill; but if they do end up there at least they won’t add to the toxic mix – let’s talk trash.

Probably the most insidious thing that mankind has done with modern science is to develop the concept of “packaging”. Almost everything that we buy these days is sold in a package of some sort and it is that packaging that makes up the bulk of the mass in our landfills. In most so-called developing countries and indeed in the great majority of the world’s population things that are needed on a daily basis are purchased and consumed in some small quantity on a daily basis without any packaging. Then there is us – the so-called developed countries – the U.S, Europe, Japan and a few others – who have embraced the concept that everything that we buy should somehow come in a bag or a box or some other form of packaging. We have created our own trash monster in the name of personal convenience. That’s how we have come to create our average of 4.5 pounds of trash a day – by throwing away the containers that our stuff comes in. Let’s talk trash.

Earth Day is about more than just trash; it is about doing things to lessen your negative impact on the earth – to conserve or at least waste less, to cut the pollution that you personally create and hopefully even to contribute in some positive way, to give back to the earth. Here’s a link to a good article about 50 tips for making a difference on Earth Day. The Web site EarthDay.org also has a program going called a Billion Acts of Green which has collected over 1 Billion pledges from people of small things that they will do to help with the effort to create a more sustainable future on Earth. As they say in Washington, a billion here and a billion there and pretty soon you’re talking real numbers. So, go there and sign up to do your part. Just commit to do some small thing differently. Maybe for you it can be taking some action to reduce the amount that you transport toe the curb every week. Let’s make a difference – let’s talk trash.

What do you plan to do on Earth Day? Since it’s not a national holiday, most of us will have to get up and go to work. They probably won’t even observe a moment of silence at work in honor of the day; but that doesn’t mean that you can do something. Maybe you can bring a little plant to work to place in your office or cubicle or just on your desk. That tiny addition to the office environment will do two things – clean a little bit of air and remind a few people about nature. Maybe instead of wadding up and tossing the report that you just finished reading you can find the paper recycling box at your office (if your office doesn’t have one, start one), or maybe you can just read you emails and reports on-line, instead of printing them off to read. Every little bit helps and evety little bit that you don’t do helps too. So at work on Earth Day  – let’s talk trash.

If you live in the Milford, Michigan area here’s a link to our local Earth Day events.


Three little words that can change your life… He is risen!

April 20, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

No long dissertation today. Today is a day for family and for celebration around the world. Perhaps no three words that I write about here will ever carry the weight that these three do – He is risen.

For Christians everywhere this is the cornerstone of their beliefs – that Jesus came to earth to die for the forgiveness of our sins and rose from the dead to assure us that we too will never die if we believe in Him. For two days the original Disciples must have wandered about in a fog with only the three words “He is dead” floating in their minds, wondering what to do now. Then, on the third day came the words – He is risen!

The rest, as they say, is history. So, on this Holy day of celebration, let us pause and reflect not only on the meaning of our own lives; but on the meaning of Jesus’ life. No matter what trials and tribulations we may endure in our day-to-day lives, we will never understand how God could come down to earth on the form of a man and allow him to be crucified as atonement for our sins. It is something that we just cannot get our brains around; and so, we must content ourselves with our beliefs in a better life ahead and beyond, based primarily  upon our belief that He is risen.

Have a great Easter! He is risen indeed!


Three little words that can change your life…This isn’t right!

April 19, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

cop writting ticketThere was a story in the news this week about a Michigan policeman from the Novi Police Department who resigned and then blew the whistle on the practice (he alleges) of assigning ticket quotas to police officers as a way to raise money for the city. According to him this practice had been going on for some time and the fact that he had to do it had been gnawing away at him. Eventually it got to be too much and he quit, saying this isn’t right.

Many of us suffer through things that we know aren’t right, but we let them slide. Maybe it’s that obnoxious, overly friendly boss at work – the one who’s always touching you. Perhaps it’s being told that you have to put in an extra hour or two “off the clock” at work, if you want to keep your job. Or it could be that you are told not to rock the boat when you report an unwanted advance by a fellow student at college. Maybe you’ve had it up to here and it’s time to stop letting things slide and stand up and say this isn’t right.

I read an article recently about some brave young women who are taking on the administrations of some of America’s largest and most prominent colleges and universities over the issue of rape on campus and the lack of effective action by the school administrations. Their allegations about the prevalence of rape on campus and the lack of enforcement action by school administrations are appalling. Rape is something that no one can make a case for there being any ”right” side; however, the young women have made a very persuasive case that universities would rather sweep this problem under the carpet than deal with it. These women have found a very effective way through the use of some Federal laws to bring financial pressure onto the schools. They refused to back down in the face of stonewalling by the schools because they knew that this isn’t right.

Recently the church leaders in Detroit have been very vocal about trying to get the community clergymanbehind police efforts to reduce crime in the city, especially the crimes against each other in the neighborhoods. They are speaking out to encourage people to break through the prevailing street culture of distrust in the police and silence in the face of crime and too help the police identify the perpetrators of the violence and drug trafficking in the city. These are the very people who teach and preach every week about what is right and wrong and try to equip their flocks with the ability to tell the difference. Their call is for the citizens to ban together in strength against the gangs and thugs and shout this isn’t right.

There are many times during a day that we face personal decisions that involve deciding what’s the right or wrong thing to do. It can be as simple as deciding whether to discard the wrapping from your lunchtime hamburger by just rolling down the window a tossing it out of the car or wadding it up to take home or back to the office to dispose of properly.  Maybe it involves deciding what to say to a friend who has just ask for your help moving this weekend. Do you lie and say that you are already busy or tell them sure, you can help. If you lie, when do you stop yourself and say, this isn’t right.

moral compassThis discourse is based upon the premise that everyone has some moral compass and can tell right from wrong. I believe that we all have that ability at some point in or lives and that is usually while we are very young; but, some have wandered so far off the track of doing the right things that they can no longer make a valid decision. Some have become so good at rationalizing why they do the wrong things that they now equate their decisions to some sort of right or privilege.  They no longer see the other side of the question and have lost the ability to say to them self, this isn’t right.

For most of us; however, it may just be not stopping to think about something long enough or hard enough to let that moral compass kick in. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the rush of daily life that we don’t think before we speak. We end up regretting the words that we’ve spoken or some action that we’ve taken; but not until after the fact. That’s when the advice of Douglas Rushkoff  wopause buttonuld come in handy when he said –“When things begin accelerating wildly out of control, sometimes patience is the only answer. Press pause.” Wouldn’t it be great if life gave us a big pause button (or maybe a “do-over” button); but it doesn’t. We must supply our on pause button. When we do pause we must also be the judge of going ahead or making the call that this isn’t right.

The last thing that we must do is choose how to act upon that decision. Not everyone can just quit their job because something isn’t right; however, many people work within corporate environments that have policies and processes for reporting things that aren’t right. There are laws that govern boorish behavior in the workplace or which protect those who report malfeasance by fellow workers. In the long run you do more damage to yourself, to your own self-image (to your soul) by going along to get along than you would by taking a stand when you see or experience something wrong.  There is no guilt to be suppressed or shame to be dealt with if you stand up and say this isn’t right.

So, what will you do today when you have a decision to make about an action or some words to say to someone? Will you be more cognizant of the right and wrong choices? Will you pause and think about it before you act or will you have to come back to it at the end of the day and admit – that wasn’t right?

You still have time to make the right choices for today.


Three little words that can change your life… Never look back.

April 18, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

It’s Friday of Easter Weekend and I’m looking forward to having our grandchildren over for an Easter egg hunt in our yard on Sunday.  So, I’m looking forward just a bit. Today’s three little words could take us in many different directions, either as an inspirational message or diving down the rat-hole of despair. I choose not to go down that rat-hole. When I choose the three words for the day, I often do a quick search to see if there are any good quotes that might be used to illustrate or reinforce a point. I found quite a few today and will sprinkle a few into this post.  Henry David Thoreau said – “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” Well, we aren’t going that way, at least not here and not today. Never look back.

One quote that I found that I though was particularly meaningful, even if it seems superficial on the surface, was this one –“ If Cinderella went back to pick up her shoe, she wouldn’t have become a princess, so never look back.” – Ritu Ghatourey. We can all relate to the story of Cinderella and her dream of going to the ball coming true. Many young girls probably dream of their Prince Charming coming along one day. Maybe that’s why when they grow up so many women have such a fascination with shoes. I suspect that what Ritu was trying to say is that we shouldn’t spend time reliving the past in search of missing shoes or answers to questions about why something happened or why we did something that we might now regret. You have to learn to let that all go. If you spend your life living in the past and looking for that missing shoe, you will never meet your Prince Charming or achieve your potential; so, never look back.

The first part of this next quote is often used without the second part.  “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”  – Alexander Graham Bell. We have all just lived through a very rough winter and we’re still in the process of coming out of The Great Recession. Many people suffered greatly, perhaps losing their jobs, or losing their homes, or suffering the breakup of marriages; yet here we are, on the other side, still alive, still standing. Those doors may have all closed; but, we must not dwell on them; but, rather look for the doors that also opened for us. It is time to move forward and you cannot move forward in life while you are looking back. Never look back.

Quite often the things that cause us to look back are failed personal relationships – friendships or relationships that we thought were love that just didn’t work out for some reason. One quote that I found that had Unknown as the author was this one, “If you’ve found a reason to walk away, never look back; just keep walking. It’s better to get lost moving forward than to get stuck looking back.” You may stumble along, lost in tears for a while; but, it is still better to moving on than to be immobilized by regret or fear or heartache. Relationships that we stay in for the wrong reasons never work out in the long run and prolonging them just makes the inevitable end that much worse. Better to cut your losses now and walk away that to live unhappily in a bad situation. Just do it; get it over with and never look back.

Another quote that I liked had to do with letting the past go, which I discussion at some length in the post Let it be back at the start of April. This quote by Jan Glidewell sums up what can happen to us if we can’t find a way to let go of the past – “You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.” Do you know people like that who have become so consumed with the past that they’ve become virtual hermits in the present?  Are you like that? Do you find yourself always talking about some past relationship, some old boyfriend or girlfriend or maybe even your ex-? Perhaps you’re still talking about your days in high school or college or maybe you can’t quit bringing up your old job (the one that went away in the Great Recession). If so, keep this quote from an Unknown author in mind – “If you are still talking about what you did yesterday, you haven’t done much today.” It’s OKto reminisce from time to time over some pleasant memories; but, it’s best to put the unpleasant behind you, focus upon today and never look back.

So, I’ve got to run now. I have things to do today. I’ve got Easter eggs to get ready and a visit from our children and grandchildren to look forward to. It’s going to be a busy and fun weekend and I have no time for lingering in the past. The past is done and gone. It’s a great day today and I choose to never look back.

Have a get day!


Three little words that can change your life… in your dreams.

April 17, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences or phrases (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence or phrase that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

Today’s three little words are a phrase, rather than a complete sentence. Like a few other recent examples it can and has been used is a derogatory manner from time to time to discourage people from hoping for something or trying something; but, I’d rather take a different, hopefully more positive look at it.

I watched the Masters Golf Tournament last weekend, as I’m sure millions did, and was happy to see Bubba Watson win again. He’s a pleasant enough fellow; and, who doesn’t like a golfer named Bubba? One of the things I took note of was a report by one of the key TV commentators who had interviewed Bubba two years ago when he first won. He said that he asked Bubba in the interview after his win if actually winning the Masters was everything that he dreamed it would be. Bubba answered, “I don’t know, I never got that far in my dreams.” How telling was that about Bubba -the humble, and likeable young man who dreamed of getting to the Masters but never had dreamed of actually winning it? How far do you get in your dreams?

women dreamingDreams are important to us as humans. They allow the subconscious mind to explore things that it cannot explore when under control or the rationale, conscious mind. Dreams can take you places that you’d otherwise never get to see and experience things that you conscious mind would never let you do. Dreams have been credited with inspiring some of man’s greatest discoveries and inventions, as well as some of greatest works of art. Dreams can be wild and crazy, sometimes to the point of becoming nightmares; or they can be pleasant and satisfying. Most people have only vague recollections of the dreams that they had while asleep, while others may be able to describe in vivid detail what they were dreaming about. Think about the things and people and places that are in your dreams.

Many people day-dream; and, that is how some of the greatest inventors of all time “dreamed up” man daydreamingtheir inventions. Creative people often report having dreamed about something – a picture that they would later paint, or a jingle or song, maybe a play or movie or perhaps the idea for a new gadget. Letting the mind wander, often off into dreams from time to time is a great creative exercise. When your mind wanders during the day, what’s in your dreams?

The other aspect of having dreams revolves around those that we think up while awake. They are sometimes also called aspirations or hopes; but they are things that we dream about. Sometimes there are people that we may dream about; about meeting them, befriending them or more. Young girls may dream about meeting their favorite teen singing idol and certainly young boys fantasize and dream about meeting whatever good looking girl is popular at the moment. As long as those dreams don’t turn into obsessions that’s OK, too. Who turns up in your dreams?

woman catching starAs adults we may have dreams about our future and the futures of our children and maybe grandchildren. We may dream about what it would be like to own a specific car or boat or whatever; or we may dream about a vacation we’d love to take. Some may dream about getting a better job or retiring someday. Most of us probably dream about things that we understand or that exist; however, some dream about things that they don’t understand or that don’t exist and that’s where great discoveries and new inventions come from. There may be great adventures, exciting new jobs and wonderful inventions in your dreams.

In that first interview, Bubba didn’t have any frame of reference to dream about what it would be like to win; but, in interviews this year; he admitted that he’d dreamed of winning again and getting another green jacket. Bubba expanded the horizon of his dreams and you should, too. Rather than just dream about that next small raise at work, dream about the next few promotions and becoming the person giving the raises. Instead of dreaming about doing a little better in the sport that you play, man reaching for stardream about being the best in that sport. People like Justin Verlander in baseball or LeBron James in basketball or Tom Brady in football didn’t dream about being a good player in their sport, they dreamed of being the dominant player in their sport. Instead of just dreaming about that person that you’d like to meet, dream about going out with them and beyond. Dreaming is your sub-conscious way of visualizing and visualizing is a proven step towards achieving. Take those first steps in your dreams.


Three little words that can change your life… Make my day.

April 16, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

In the beginning of the Clint Eastwood movie Dirty Harry, Harry Callahan (Clint Eastwood) goes into a diner for a morning cup of coffee. The waitress discreetly pours a copious amount of sugar into his coffee, and when Callahan returns to complain after taking a drink of it, he discovers a robbery is in progress. He kills the robbers in a shootout. However, a surviving robber grabs the fleeing waitress, holds his gun to her head, and threatens to shoot. Instead of backing off, Harry points his .44 Magnum revolver into the boy’s face and dares him to shoot, saying with clenched teeth and in his characteristic rough grumble, “Go ahead, make my day.”

I’d like to put those three little words to a much different use. Instead of assuming that you happen upon crimes or crises in progress on a daily basis; let’s just assume that you live a more normal life and meet regular people all day long. Many of us tend to settle into routines where we shuffle through the day sometimes barely aware of those around us, many times avoiding eye contact because we want to avoid taking the time to stop and acknowledge someone or perhaps we don’t know what we’d two women talkingsay to them.  What do you think would happen to them and to you if you chose to see each person as if they had a little sign on them that read – Make my day.

What if instead of just nodding and mumbling a quick good morning, you stopped and said to that person, “You look great today.” or maybe “What a nice dress, where did you get that?” or “Your hair looks great today, where do you get it done?” Maybe you’re a guy and the other party is too; you might say something like, “Looks like you’ve gotten out on the course? How are you hitting them?” or maybe “Looks like you’ve lost some weight, are you working out?” or maybe “How are the kids doing? Are they in sports this spring?” Why would you do that? Because, people like to be acknowledged and engaged; and, they enjoy getting compliments or talking about themselves and family. If you will businessmenaccept the challenge to initiate the process of conversation, you’ll be surprised how much joy you can bring when you just make the effort with them to Make my day.

There is a side benefit to making that effort – you’ll feel better, too. It is just too easy to fall into the habit of avoiding people, of not making any effort at conversation, of becoming a virtual hermit in your day-to-day environment. If you assume and believe that they will like talking about themselves and their family, why wouldn’t you find the same joy is given the opportunity to talk about what’s happening in your life. People like to share things; that’s what makes Facebook and Twitter so popular. So, consider the opportunities that taking this approach to life will give you to be a “reality version” of those less personal technology-based versions. This is real life and in it you have the opportunity to post a live comment or utter a Tweet that will Make my day.

Now I know that many of you may be reading this and saying to yourself, “I don’t have time for this kind of stuff. That’s why I avoid people in the first place.” I would say to you that you don’t have time in life not to do these things. This quote by Wally Lamb, author, puts that a different way – “It’s the most breathtakingly ironic things about living: the fact that we are all…alone. Singular. And yet what we seek – what saves us – is our connection to others.” So, maybe this is really the most important thing in your life, or should be; not to be alone, singular, a virtual hermit; but rather to proactively reach out to touch others, engage them.  A. A. Milne, English Author  (1882-1956), Best Known For His Books About Winnie The Pooh put it this way in Pooh-speak –“You can’t stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” Pooh might have gone on to say Make my day.

So, today challenge yourself to take the initiative, to reach out and touch those that you meet alongtwo women talking the way, to engage them and with a kind word or words of encouragement or compliment help start their day off better.  You may be surprised at the impact that can have. It’s like the wake of a boat passing by that spreads and spreads across the water. “There are those whose lives affect all others around them. Quietly touching one heart, who in turn, touches another. Reaching out to ends further than they would ever know.” – William Bradfield. That’s the impact that you can have when you make the effort to Make my day.


Three little words that can change your life… Get a life!

April 15, 2014

Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.

Adrianna Huffington is currently making the rounds of talk shows pitching her new book Thrive. In it she apparently discovers that there is more to life and to what we should be calling success in life than the things that we’ve been obsessing over as a nation for quite some time. What she and many other suddenly enlightened authors and motivational speakers have recently “discovered” is that; rather than getting more money or getting a bigger house or getting a new car, most of all people need to Get a life.
chasing brass ring

The little phrase “get a life” started our it’s life as a derogatory statement to people who didn’t seem to be doing anything, at least not anything of interest to the hip people who were judging them. Of late it is more and more often used to admonish the overworked and stressed out over-achiever generation to stop burning themselves out and get real about what is really important – their family, their friends and their health. The message now is that it is time to reassess why you are working 80 hours a week and always fell tired. It is time to stop and assess what this is really doing to you and the ones that you love and for whom you believe that you are doing it. It is time to Get a life.

It turns out that there were probably some pretty neat things going on with your son or daughter at ballplayerschool or in sports during those overtime hours that you worked. There were things that your wife really wished you had the time to do with her instead of spending that extra time at the office. There were little league coaching opportunities that you were too busy for and games that were played while you were on the road. There were buddies that wished that you had time for a round of golf with them on the weekend, instead of going into the office. You missed all of that in the past, but you don’t have to miss the things to come, if you just Get a life.

Now you may say, Norm you don’t understand; but I do, because I now have to look back on my life with a lot of coulda, woulda, shoulda regrets. I didn’t get a life when my children were young. I was out shuckin’ and jivin’ and chasing those big bucks. I eventually got them. I had the big six-figure income and got the things that I thought were so important back then. What I lost were the precious moments that will never be repeated – the birthday parties, the ball games and recitals that I missed are all gone, never to be repeated.  I was working and I thought that was what I was supposed to do. There were smiles that I missed seeing, laughs that I didn’t hear, joys that were shared with those who were there, but not with me. I was not there to congratulate my son on a win or to console my daughter in a loss.  So, don’t say that I don’t understand – I do.  I was not there as a husband and a parent; but, fortunately I’m not too late to get a second chance as a husband and now as a grandparent. I’m having a ball with both now, because I eventually I figured out that what I really needed was to Get a life.

fansSo, whether you are inspired by this little blog or Adrianna’s nice new book  – Thrive; take the time to assess what it is you really want and what the best way to get that really is. If you can get past the “need” for that new car or bigger house and focus instead on the family that will ride or live in them you may be able to see that a little more money at work is less valuable than a little more time at home. Your kids won’t care if they have to ride in a three year old car, if they can ride with you to go to an amusement park or a ball game. Your wife won’t mind staying in your cozy little house if the man she fell in love with (and still wants to be with) is there more often, doing things with her. And you may find that, instead of pumping up that guy in the mirror every morning and putting on your game face, so that you can go out and work even harder for material things; now, you can relax and smile at him instead because he’s figured out what’s really important – he finally decided to Get a life.

Sure, I know that you’ve got to make the mortgage payment and put food on the table. Maybe you’re already starting to worry about putting the kids through college or have given some thought to your familyown retirement. Those are all important and worthy things to plan for and work for, but not to obsess over.  You can be successful enough to provide for your family without being gone so much that you’re almost a stranger to your family. You can have what you want in life if you focus upon what you need in life and not so much on what you don’t have. Socrates said it best hundreds of years ago –

 “He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.”  I’m sure that, had it been in the vernacular in Socrates day; he would have gone on to say – Get a life.

 When the time comes for others to look back over what you accomplished in life very few funeral speakers spend much time discussing your business accomplishments. They try to focus instead on the impact that your life had on those around you – your family and your friends. They relate stories about things you did with those important people in your life, the fun you had the events that you shared and how important to them it was that you were there. Let’s hope that in describing your life they won’t have to observe a moment of silence instead.  That won’t happen if you Get a life.