Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.
It’s Friday of Easter Weekend and I’m looking forward to having our grandchildren over for an Easter egg hunt in our yard on Sunday. So, I’m looking forward just a bit. Today’s three little words could take us in many different directions, either as an inspirational message or diving down the rat-hole of despair. I choose not to go down that rat-hole. When I choose the three words for the day, I often do a quick search to see if there are any good quotes that might be used to illustrate or reinforce a point. I found quite a few today and will sprinkle a few into this post. Henry David Thoreau said – “Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” Well, we aren’t going that way, at least not here and not today. Never look back.
One quote that I found that I though was particularly meaningful, even if it seems superficial on the surface, was this one –“ If Cinderella went back to pick up her shoe, she wouldn’t have become a princess, so never look back.” – Ritu Ghatourey. We can all relate to the story of Cinderella and her dream of going to the ball coming true. Many young girls probably dream of their Prince Charming coming along one day. Maybe that’s why when they grow up so many women have such a fascination with shoes. I suspect that what Ritu was trying to say is that we shouldn’t spend time reliving the past in search of missing shoes or answers to questions about why something happened or why we did something that we might now regret. You have to learn to let that all go. If you spend your life living in the past and looking for that missing shoe, you will never meet your Prince Charming or achieve your potential; so, never look back.
The first part of this next quote is often used without the second part. “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell. We have all just lived through a very rough winter and we’re still in the process of coming out of The Great Recession. Many people suffered greatly, perhaps losing their jobs, or losing their homes, or suffering the breakup of marriages; yet here we are, on the other side, still alive, still standing. Those doors may have all closed; but, we must not dwell on them; but, rather look for the doors that also opened for us. It is time to move forward and you cannot move forward in life while you are looking back. Never look back.
Quite often the things that cause us to look back are failed personal relationships – friendships or relationships that we thought were love that just didn’t work out for some reason. One quote that I found that had Unknown as the author was this one, “If you’ve found a reason to walk away, never look back; just keep walking. It’s better to get lost moving forward than to get stuck looking back.” You may stumble along, lost in tears for a while; but, it is still better to moving on than to be immobilized by regret or fear or heartache. Relationships that we stay in for the wrong reasons never work out in the long run and prolonging them just makes the inevitable end that much worse. Better to cut your losses now and walk away that to live unhappily in a bad situation. Just do it; get it over with and never look back.
Another quote that I liked had to do with letting the past go, which I discussion at some length in the post Let it be back at the start of April. This quote by Jan Glidewell sums up what can happen to us if we can’t find a way to let go of the past – “You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.” Do you know people like that who have become so consumed with the past that they’ve become virtual hermits in the present? Are you like that? Do you find yourself always talking about some past relationship, some old boyfriend or girlfriend or maybe even your ex-? Perhaps you’re still talking about your days in high school or college or maybe you can’t quit bringing up your old job (the one that went away in the Great Recession). If so, keep this quote from an Unknown author in mind – “If you are still talking about what you did yesterday, you haven’t done much today.” It’s OKto reminisce from time to time over some pleasant memories; but, it’s best to put the unpleasant behind you, focus upon today and never look back.
So, I’ve got to run now. I have things to do today. I’ve got Easter eggs to get ready and a visit from our children and grandchildren to look forward to. It’s going to be a busy and fun weekend and I have no time for lingering in the past. The past is done and gone. It’s a great day today and I choose to never look back.
Have a get day!