Be the best you in existence…

February 16, 2017

Every now and then I go out and look for quotes about a theme that I might want to write about some day. Such was the case today when I decided to write about being yourself. Today’s headline come from a quote by famous inspirational trainer and speaker Zig Ziglar – “You will make a lousy anybody else, but you will be the best “you” in existence.”

So, that kicked off a whole series of quotes about being yourself that I found to bedepression2 inspirational and I hope you do, too. I particularly liked this one as a starting point for thought and discussion – “Be what you are. This is the first step towards becoming better than you are.” – J. C. Hare & A. W. Hare. Too many of use try to be what we think someone else wants us to be, sometimes to fit in and sometimes because we think that is the key to success and sometimes just because we don’t yet like ourselves. The first step towards being the best you that you can be is to drop the mask and abandon the fake persona that you have been hiding behind.

It is likely that all of us want to improve and be a better person than we think we are right now. The first step is getting real about what and where you are now and perhaps the walking mandirection in which you are heading, which I wrote about yesterday (see Do you need to change direction) . About your current state and the direction that you are currently taking, a quote from Hardy D. Jackson seems appropriate – “Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.”  Sometimes the “it” that quote is referring to your job, sometimes to the relationships that you are in right now or questionable friendships that you may have . If you look into your own heart and cannot see that they are right for you, then it might be time for a change. According to Carl Jung that pause to look into your heart is critical because, as he says – “Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.” So, look into your heart and awaken the real you.

As you are looking for, and awakening, the real you that is inside you, deep in your heart; maybe the words of Howard Thurman will help – “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Once you have looked inside and come alive the words of Dr. Suess will finally make sense to you – “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

Once you have freed your soul of the shackles of trying to be someone else or to be what you think someone else wants you to be, you are free to heed the advice of Parkenham Beatty –

“By your own soul, learn to live

And if men thwart you take no heed.

If men hate you have no care.

Sing your song, dream your dream,

Hope your hope and pray your prayer.”

 At that point you are well on your way to becoming the best you that you can be – the best you in existence. I think then you will find the words of Oprah Winfrey to be meaningful for you, too – “I was once afraid of people saying, “Who does she think she is?” Now Ithis-is-me have the courage to stand and say, ‘This is who I am.’”

For those who seek guidance in the Bible, visit 1 Corinthians 15:10 – “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain.” Stand up proudly and say “this is who I am” and then be the best you in existence. You’ll feel better about yourself and others will start feeling good about you, too.I’d like to meet that person someday.


Be the best me…

May 26, 2015

“The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why.”  (Mark Twain)  From the Jack’s Winning Words blog. Jack went on to write – Have you even taken a test to determine the best vocation for you?  Are you in that vocation?  I wanted to be a fireman, but God had other plans.  MLK Jr advised some students, “If your occupation is to be a street sweeper, be the best street sweeper you can be.”    “Be the best of whatever you are” is the title of a poem by Douglas Malloch.    😉  Jack 

There are lots and lots of books and writings on the meaning of life – the “why” in the quote above – including the book “40 Days of Purpose” by Pastor Rick warren,  about your purpose in life, plus  a ton of web sites, books and other stuff out there on the topic of being the best me that I can be.

Some days it’s harder than others to keep that in mind and to focus on being the best me; but, when you think about it who else could I be? Here’s a good quote that I saw by the late Steve Jobs –

steve jobs quote

It seems like Steve was saying to be the best you that you can be and not worry about trying to be somebody else. The MLK advice above is good to keep in mind, too. Sometimes we get so focused upon thinking about or worrying about the things that we don’t have or can’t do that we forget to enjoy the things that we do have and can do. We also forget to be thankful for what we do have when we spend all of our time focused upon what we don’t have.

Happiness is not to be found in coveting what others have, but rather in being thankful for what we do have and enjoying it with those that we love and who love us. There is also unbounded joy to be had in things that neither you nor anyone else can possess – the beauty of a sunset, the fragrance of a flower, the happiness in a child’s laugh or the warmth of a heartfelt hug. Perhaps we place too much importance on things that don’t really matter in the long run and too little value in the wonderful things and people that are all around us all the time.

Perhaps it is time to take Steve Jobs quote to heart and stop living to meet the expectations of others or that were set by the expectations of others. Be the best you that you can be and enjoy that, revel in that, find reward and satisfaction in that and be happy with that. You may find that you spend less time worrying about why you were born and more time enjoying the fact that you were. Have a great day and a great rest of your week.