Voting for Huron Valley history…

January 13, 2015

I’ve mentioned this here before and your will see it again before next Monday. I’m the President of the Board of the Milford Historical Society (MHS). We run a small museum in Milford that is open 8 months of the year. The Milford Historical Museum, like many small town museums across America focuses upon local history, in our case the history of the area surrounding Milford – The Huron Valley area. The museum houses memorabilia of various sorts that have been contributed by local residents. It also houses a unique collection of microfilmed copies of the local weekly paper – The Milford Times – going back to its beginning in 1871. The Milford Times like many small town weekly papers, is a great source for historical material on the life and times of Milford and the surrounding area. The ads alone would make a great graduate degree study in the changing tastes of mid-America.

microfilm readerWhen this archive was conceived and created back in the 1970’s the most logical medium to use was microfilm, which is what it is recorded upon to this day. Microfilm has a very long life, but the technology has been supplanted by newer, faster and certainly more useful technologies. The microfilm library that we have is not indexed (other than by start and stop dates on the film reels) and cannot be searched. It is a tedious process to find a specific issue and an impossible task to find all mentions of a specific subject. We hope to change that and make the files searchable, while at the same time moving to a newer technology that will last long into the future.

Our Museum and the Milford Historical Society has joined forces with the Milford Library, the Highland Township Library, the White Lake Township Library, the Commerce Township Library and Historical Societies from Highland, White Lake (and Fisk Farm), and Commerce Township (and Byers Farm) in a project that has been named the Huron Valley History Initiative. This group has joined together to facilitate the project to convert the copies of the Milford times that exist on microfilm in the Milford Historical Museum and at the Milford Library into a searchable database that will be house on a server that will be accessible to the group members. The resulting database will be indexed and searchable. The groups have also committed to the digitization and addition of other of their records and memorabilia, such as old photos, cemetery records, tax records and such. Once done the resulting database will allow a very rich search environment for historians and genealogy researchers.

The tasks that must be completed to realize the vision of having all of this history on line are formidable, but they start with getting the current microfilm library scanned in and converted to digital format. To that end, the group has applied for a grant from the Clarke Library, which is associated with Central Michigan University. Clarke accepts annual grant requests for history-oriented projects from around the state of Michigan and then chooses one request to fund. The choice involves letting the communities that will be impacted by the grant work vote on the importance to the community of the proposed work. The Huron Valley History Initiative is one of the five finalists for this year’s Clarke Library grant. The voting is done within a one week window, from Jan 19 until Jan 25.

vote graphicBeginning Jan 19, members of the community (or anyone for that matter)  may “vote” for the project of their choice by using Twitter to post a Tweet with a unique hashtag (in our case the hashtag is #DigMilford) or they may send in a post card with some Michigan theme or content (a picture of something in Michigan) addressed to Clarke Library, Central Michigan University, Mount Clemens, MI  48859. The postcard should contain the hashtag DigMilford on it to identify it as a vote for our project. You can click here to view the poster that we’ve created and which will be in store window in Milford and in the libraries mentioned. The Huron Valley History Initiative has also created a Facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/huronvalleyhistory ,which you can visit for more information. The Clarke Library also has a web page that will allow you to vote, just remember that our hashtag is #DigMilford.

I encourage all of my readers to Tweet or re-Tweet during the voting window using the hashtag #DigMilford. Admittedly, this is a “cause” that doesn’t pull at the heartstrings like most of the health and welfare causes that we are all bombarded with all of the time. The needs in those areas are great all around the world and I encourage you to do what you can for them and give what you can. In this case, we aren’t asking you for any money, just a few moments to Tweet or re-Tweet something with the hashtag #DigMilford to support our project. Of course, if you do happen to have a Michigan-themed postcard and want to send it in to vote for us, that would be great. Postcards count as 100 votes, so that counts as a lot of Tweeting. Send your cards to – Clarke Library, Central Michigan University, Mount Clemens, MI  48859. For my international followers, perhaps a postcard from your country to the library with something historic in your area would be counted – just make sure to put the hashtag #DigMilford on it.

I’ll post a reminder on Monday, Jan 19 when the polls open. Thanks for your support.


Last minute Christmas gift idea in the Huron Valley

December 19, 2014

We are in the final week of the Christmas gift buying season. If you still have some people on your list that you don’t have gifts for this Christmas, here are some great gift ideas. We tend to focus upon giving things, but some of the best gifts that I’ve received in the past involved services rather than goods. These are not things that might come immediately to mind, but which could end up being the best presents that you’ve ever given to someone; and for the most part, you don’t need to worry about wrapping them.

For the younger people on your list, consider giving the gift of a better future by getting themMathnasium_logo signed up for help at the Mathnasium of West Huron Valley located in Milford. Math skills are the absolute base for many good career paths, whether or not the student goes on to college or just joins the workforce out of high school. Modern “common core” curriculums are leaving many student struggling with math, but Jeffery Levine at Mathnasium can get them up to speed give them those competitive skills. Can Mathnasium at 248-676-2971 or go to their web site http://www.mathnasium.com/westhuronvalley for more information. This is a gift that will keep on giving for years to come.

Perhaps your youngster is artistically inclined and needs help and direction to bring out and nurture that skill. You should check out the programs at the Village Fine Arts Associate’s Susan VFAA_logo-2Haskew Art Center (SHAC) at 125 South Main St, Suite 700 in Milford, Michigan 48381. You may be able to sign them up and pre-pay for classes to help develop that latent talent. You can also call or email Andrea Perry, SHAC Director of Development: shac@milfordvfaa.org , 248-797-3060 or Susan Gollon, Milford VFAA Executive Director: contactus@milfordvfaa.org, 248-421-3337

For those who need the encouragement, programs and structure of a workout club, I’d recommend the one that I go to – Anytime Fitness of Milford. Located at 141 South Milford Road, Milford, MI 48381 (the old Farmer Jack’s Shopping mall), this Anytime Fitness location has all of the machines and weights and other “stuff” that you need for great workouts, plus a anytimne fitness logogreat staff of personal trainers who can customer tailor a workout program for you. They have a free trial period offer, so that you can see if this is for you. Call Willa Danowski, Club Manager, at 248-685-8373 and arrange a time to go in and talk to her about joining. If you like to workout early in the morning you are likely to see me there most days. Their web site is http://anytimefitness.com/gyms/1020/milford-mi-48381. One nice thing about joining Anytime Fitness is that you can use any club, any time anywhere in the U.S., so you can find a place to work out on vacations.

One of the best gifts that my wife has given me in the last few years was a gift card good for 60
esential massage logominutes of massage at Essential Massage and Wellness Center – 1641 S Milford Rd, Suite B,   Highland, MI 48357. Essential Massage has a number of different types of massage, from relaxation focused sessions to deep muscle pain relief sessions and everything in between. They also have an acupuncturist on staff  who can use that alternative medicine approach to pain relief. You can go on-line to order you gift card or to arrange an appointment or call 248-714-9901 and ask for Tammy or Cindy. Tell them that Norm sent you. I had two wonderful sessions to deal with some pain that I have in my shoulder fro a fall last winter and they both left me feeling great.

A family portrait makes a great gift and is something that most families don’t think of buying for themselves anymore. Call Bill Abram of Memorable Moments Art toll free at 877-640-8150 to set up a session. We still have our family portraits from when our kids were growing up and display them in our home. The grandkids in particular get a kick out of seeing mom or dad as youth. I recommend getting one done every few years, so that you document the family during the grade school, middle school and high school years. They can make great Christmas card material, too.

If you, or someone that you know, struggle with depression this time of year, you may benefit from the advice and tools that Norma Nicholson of Wise Owl Enterprises can equip you (or them)  with to fight off that depression. Norma is an author and private consultant and Wise owl graphic as jpegworkshop facilitator in the area of healing depression the natural way. Give her a call at 248-684-7987 or email norma786@comcast.net to arrange for a confidential consultation. She is in the process of setting up her web site. I will admit that I have not used Norma’s services, but I have known her for quite a while and know that she is a good, honest and caring person who developed many of her techniques and tools as mechanisms for coping with things in her own life. This is another gift that will keep on giving for years to come.

If you have someone that needs help with a fear or phobia or maybe just riding themselves of a nasty habit, call my friend Nichole Merline of MTU Hypnosis at 248-568-0831 or visit her web Nicole Merlinesite at www.mtuhypnosis.com. Nicole helps a wide variety of people with issues or problems in their lives that they want o overcome. For the young it may be a fear or test taking or an inability to focus upon studying. For adults there is a wide range of issues that Nicole can help with from fears and phobias to stopping smoking, losing weight or feeling more at ease in social settings. The human mind is a powerful thing and Nicole can help you put yours to work for you, instead of against you.

If you have an elderly parent who has been stubborn about making the transition into a senior living environment, perhaps Julie Haskins-White can help. Julie is the principal in Creative Eldercare Consultants, LLC. Julie may be reached at 800-355-8932 or 248-842-4980. What Julie and staff bring to the process is over 30 years of Senior Care experience and a very deep knowledge of what the alternatives are based upon each unique situation. Julie can work directly with your senior or with the family to assess what the best course of action and placement option might be.

Finally, if you are totally stumped and none of the above seem to fit, go to the Huron Valley Chamber of Commerce office at 317 Union Street, Milford, MI 48381 and buy them some Chamber Bucks. Chamber Bucks are cash equivalents which can be used in most local restaurants and many local stores. To see where they are good, click here.

So, I’ve kind of wandered through a variety of gifts for the young and the elders in your life. Most of these aren’t things, they are services (some may result in things, such as the family portrait) that you can buy or pre-pay for someone on your list. Most involve things that they might not do or buy for themselves, but they’ll be glad that you did.  Have a great and Merry Christmas!


How dumb do they think we are?

June 30, 2014

We are in the silly season when politicians flood the airways with their ads, each claiming to be the savior of America. There is a consistency of stupidity in these ads or at least a consistency in how dumb they must think we (the voting public) are. Every politician makes claims about what they are going to go to Washington and do that are similarly ridiculous; and, apparently they think we may believe them. Every politician makes it sound like they will single handedly fix all that is wrong with Washington and with America, if only you will elect them. How dumb to they think we are?

politiciaN SPEAKINGEvery one of them makes claims like “I will reduce the size of government, cut your taxes while improving the services, break the deadlocks in Congress” and probably solve the issues of world hunger and world peace in my spare time. Many in this election year also promise that they will repeal the Universal Healthcare law; require women to have babies, even in cases of rape; and let struggling American companies fail rather than find a way to help. How dumb do they think we are?

These are usually professional politicians; but many are people who have otherwise have been successful in life and business (so you know that they probably aren’t stupid themselves); who are apparently willing to lie to us to get elected. No freshman or junior Congressman or Senator will have any influence over anything in Washington; much less change the prevailing “do-nothing” attitudes POLITICIAN KISSING BABYthat have gridlocked government. How dumb do they think we are?

What they will do, which they have already demonstrated by toadying to various special interest groups to even get this far, is to spend their first year or two sucking up to the power brokers that run the place – lobbyists and party leadership – hoping to curry favor and  get money for their re-election campaigns.  Most will continue to kowtow to whatever special interest groups helped them get elected in the first place. How dumb do they think we are?

What they won’t do is give a damn about the so-called constituents back in whatever district s they are from. They may drop crumbs back in the hood when they can, do photo-ops and kiss babies when back home, but what they will really focus upon will be learning which backsides to kiss in Washington. These are politicians, which is the only group rated lower than lawyers in esteem and trustworthiness in the minds of most Americans. How dumb do they think we are?

politician cutting ribbonSo let’s all take the political ads with a big grain of salt or a lot of skepticism. These are people who will do anything and say anything to get elected and who have absolutely no conscience about ever doing any of what they said they would do to get elected. Just once wouldn’t you like to see an ad that said – “I want to go to Washington and work to build relationships and coalitions with other legislators from both parties to get things done on behalf of the people. I know it won’t be easy and it may take some time, but I will be working towards that end. One Congressman or one Senator can’t change government all by himself; but one honest, dedicated and hard-working legislator can lead a movement that will make a difference and I want to be that person.”

I’d vote for that guy/gal; but, unfortunately he/she’s not running again this year. Displaying the ability to work across party lines or more accurately across ideology lines is considered to be heresy and is sure political death. The sad truth is they know how dumb we are; after all we keep electing them.


The music in our lives…

April 7, 2014

I won’t start another numbered series. I probably won’t write more than once about this topic, especially since tastes in music can vary so widely. I must also admit that I’m not a big music listener anymore. I guess I just drifted away from the need to feel or express my emotions through the songs of others. However, I can still relate to that as I used to when it was a more important part of my life.

Music stanzaI grew up during the birth of rock and roll and still recall how scandalous some of the early rock songs were considered. Most of the early rock songs seemed to focus on rebellion or unrequited love (many with sexual undertones).  Just the notion of rocking and rolling was initially met with disdain (do you remember Kevin Bacon’s movie Footloose?); but early rockers like Bill Haley and Bo Didley, Fats Domino, Little Richard and Gene Vincent kept rockin’ on and a new music genre was born out of the fusion of R&B, Jazz and folk music. A rockabilly element was added by Elvis Presley, Carl Perkins and Jerry Lee Lewis. We had greats like Heartbreak Hotel by Elvis and Blue Suede Shoes by Carl Perkins and Peggy Sue by Buddy electric baseHolly and the Crickets.

Then, along came Do-Wop, with the multipart harmonies that gave us such greats as The Great Pretender by the Platters and Yakety Yak by the Coasters. We also had Do-Wop groups like the Del Vikings , Dion and the Belmonts and the Mystics (with Paul Simon as lead singer on their hit “All Through the Night”). I have albums (mostly on cassette tapes) from most of the big acts from that era)

The early 60’s were considered to be the time when rock was in decline, but it was also a time of diversity for the genre as more and more girl groups started hitting the charts. Several new sub-genres also grew during this time, including surfer music, garage band music and specialty dance music, such as “The Twist” by Chubby Checker. Rebellion and love were still the dominant themes of the music. Who can forget the 1964 hit “The Leader of the Pack” by the Shangiri-Las. I’ve got a lot of that music on cassettes, too, and a few LPs.

Then there was the British invasion, with the Beatles and the Rolling Stones leading the way. The Beatles were the cute bubble gum band of the era initially, with songs like “I want to hold your Hand”; while the Stones were the bad boys.   I remember that the Rolling Stones hit “Let’s spend the night together” was banned on some radio station for a while.  I have LPs from that era by the Beatles, the Stones, the Mamas and Papas and other groups. I mostly have LPs from this era, although like many I went back and bought the cassettes and later the CDs for many.

The counterculture movement took hold in the late 60’s with great opposition to the war in Viet Nam and much experimenting with drugs in the late 60’s and 70’s and the music of those times followed those trends. Message songs about peace and not war were popular and messengers metal rockerlike Bob Dylan grew up musically in that culture. The Heavy Metal genre was born and very pronounced drum and bass beats took hold. I still have the original 23 minute LP version of In-A-Godda-Da-Vida by the Iron Butterfly. Groups like King Crimson and Black Sabbath provided the ubiquitous beat that some many listened to while stoned. I recall hearing that incessant beat while sitting in my hootch in Viet Nam.

The 70’s saw the introduction of disco music, which was great to dance to and relatively harmless. Disco divas such as Donna Summers and Anita Ward were big in the disco club music genre. Late in the 70’s a new  wave style developed with bands like Blondie introducing electronic and synthesized music to rock hit like “Heart of Glass”. Soft rock also gained in popularity with groups like the Carpenters, the Jackson Five and the Osmonds cranking out hits. Hard rock was still alive and well on the big show arena circuit with groups like Blood Sweat and Tears, Foreigner, Journey and Styx out on the road. The rise of what is called Country Rock or Southern Rock happened in the mid to late 70’s with groups like the Eagles and Lynyrd Skynyrd, The Allman Brothers Band, and The Marshall Tucker Band. The Eagles “Hotel California” album was probably the best album of that era. Individual performers also became very popular again in the 70’s with Billy Joel, Jim Croce, John Denver and Bruce Springsteen leading the men and Linda Ronstadt, Carly Simon, Dionne Warwick, Donna Summer, Barbra Streisand, Rita Coolidge, and Helen Reddy holding forth on the female side. For me this was my age of working hard and raising a family. My involvement with musicrocker had waned but I was still buying music – cassette tapes back then. I did like the fluffy stuff that Abba was putting out and

The 80’s are probably what most people relate to the most, with stars like Michael Jackson and Madonna emerging. Jackson recorded his Thriller album ( one of the best-selling albums of all time) and Madonna had True Blue and Like a Virgin (which was also the best-selling album for a female artist). The late 80’s also saw the rise of so-called teen-pop, with groups like New Kids on the Block and other music aimed at the younger audience. Prince also arrived on the music scene and his Purple Rain album reviled the success of Michael Jackson. All was not bubble gum and pop however, with heavy metal bands like Van Halen, Queen, Def Leppard, Mötley Crüe, Bon Jovi, Aerosmith and Alice Cooper out on the arena circuit and doing well. Other genres were developing larger followings such as hip hop and punk rock. I had progressed to music on CDCD’s and still bought some music although my tastes had mellowed out quite a bit, so it was probably stuff by Springsteen or Tina Turner or maybe Whitney Houston. I also started buying the CDs of t groups called the Eurhythmics and later those of Anne Lennox.

In the 90’s saw lots of splintering into sub-genres with the main rock categories being Alternative Rock and Metal trends, Grunge, Indie Rock, Ska, Punk Rock, Nu Metal, Heavy Metal, Pop, Contemporary R&B, Neo Soul and Hip Hop (which had morphed mainly into rap). I had left most music behind by then, so my experiences are limited. Those same categories seem to have progressed forward in to the 2000’s, perhaps with the reemergence of the teen pop performers added.  Country music also started showing up more as the cross-over style of country emerged.

So for me personally lots of my experience with music was some time ago. I do recall quitter vividly how powerful a song can be as either a reflection of the pain of a lost love or finding the strength to go on after a breakup. The Paul McCartney song Yesterday was especially meaningful for me during a breakup back in my college days, before I met my wife. Music could also make you feel good.  I also loved Monday, Monday by the Mamas and Papas back then. I have the Viet Nam era records by groups like King Crimson, Black Sabbath and Iron Butterfly, but I don’t revisit them.

I have a complete boxed set of the Simon and Garfunkel recordings and most of what Paul Simon did as a solo artist. I also have the complete works of the Beatles, though not of individual members after the breakup. I have disco stuff by the Bee Gees but not the heavy metal stuff of the era. I have some stuff by the modern day divas of rock – Carey, Estaban, Dion, the Bangles and Blondie to go with my favorite from an earlier era – Janice Joplin.  I also have some pretty obscure stuff, like several albums by Laura Nyro (Look that one up) and eclectic little albums by Melanie, Enya and Nora Jones to go along with my albums by Anne Lennox. I croonerhave most of the albums that Simply Red has done and a nice collection of Frank Sinatra and Tony Bennett stuff. Somewhere in the early 90’s I got into Garth Brooks for a while, so I have his albums on CDs, too. I have no modern rock of any of the various genres or any rap.

I’m not sure when I wandered away from music, but it doesn’t have much of a roll in my life anymore. Sure I have music on my iPhone and playlists all set up and I have ear buds in every coat; but it’s that I don’t use them very often.  I can’t even say what I would take with me to a dessert island if I was to be stranded there. Perhaps I would just relax and listen to the sea.

Music can just be something in the background like noise or it can move us greatly. What songs have had great meaning in your life? What events do you relate to a particular song? What song can bring a tear to your eyes? Try this country song by George Jones, considered by many to be the saddest song ever written. If that didn’t work, then here’s a site that advertises the 28 saddest songs ever. If you need a good cry, go there.  There are also songs that make you feelisland good. Here’s one site’s top ten list for feel good songs.

What music would you take with you to that dessert island?


Problem Solving 101

March 5, 2014

“Don’t fight the problem, decide it!”  (George C. Marshall)

Yet another sayings that was featured on one of my favorite blog – Jack’s Winning Words

I’ve read elsewhere that when people and animals are suddenly confronted by danger – by a problem – they usually have one of two reactions fight or flight. The reactive response is either to turn and face the issue with an offensive move of your own – to fight – or to turn away and run away from the problem – to take flight as a defensive measure.

There is a difference in the reaction that George Marshall is supporting in today’s little quote. He is not espousing and aggressive, belligerent fight as the solution; nor is he recommending that you run a away and avoid the problem.  By saying “decide it”, he is telling us to use an intelligent approach to the problem. Understand it. Evaluate it. Seek alternative solutions to it, Pick the best alternative. Implement the best solution. Evaluate the results. Choose another solution if the first didn’t work and keep trying. In other words – decide it.

Many of us (I plead guilty to this all too often) just try to let the problem sit there, in hopes that it will eventually go away. That is a form of denial and it solves nothing. In some cases the problem actually gets bigger that longer it’s allowed to go unresolved. That strategy is a form of flight because circling a problem over and over s is as much running away from it as turning your back on it is.

One thing that I’ve finally realized after way too many years is that the problems that we perceive just get bigger than they really are in our own imaginations if we circle around and around them. Worrying and worrying about all of the things that could go wrong if you confront a problem just seems to feed it and make it look bigger. We must eventually turn and face it; but at least we can do so intelligently.

Over the span of a career in the IT technology and services industry, I had the opportunity to take many sales training courses. One of he best was at Xerox during my last foray back into that world. At that course they stressed a technique for dealing with objections (problems) that they reduced to a cute little four letter memory device – CPRT. Those four letters stand for – Clarify, Paraphrase, Respond, Test. I liked that little device enough that I had rubber bracelets with CPRT embossed into them made for my classmates.

CPRT breaks down this way. First you try to Clarify what the problem is. Often it is a lack of clarity about some issue that is at the heart of the problem. Once you have agreement that you understand what the problem is you Paraphrase it back – putting it in your own words and getting agreement with whomever you need to that you have in fact captured the issues. Next you Respond to the problem; you suggest a solution. Finally you Test for whether your response is, in fact, a solution – If I do what I’ve just suggested, will that fix things?

Many times, especially in relationships; once you have clarified the problem and paraphrased it back, your best response may well be an apology. Perhaps the problem was one that you caused with some remark or some slight, real or imagined that you didn’t realize. An apology can defuse many situations. Some times; however, the hurt was so deep, the split so complete, the problem so large, that a simple apology will not fix it. In those cases it is often best to back off and let time work its magic. Time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds, but it does take the sting off and allow for healing.

It may well be that a relationship damaged by a problem can never be the same as it was before and you have to deal with that. If having a relationship with that person is important to you; you may have to work hard, not to get back to where you were (that may not be possible), but to at least the best place that you both can still get to. Then let it go at that.

So try that mnemonic  CPRT the next time that you hit a problem and see if it helps you. At least it’s better that running around in circles not knowing what to do. That’s another little ditty that used to be popular – when in trouble or in doubt, run in circles scream and shout. I think I prefer CPRT or even better KCCO.


It’s Great Quotes Sunday –

March 3, 2014

Did you ever notice how sometimes great songwriters just get it so right? They write the words to songs that just make so much sense and resonate with us. The same is true of great quotes. Sometimes when you string a few of them together they help us put things in perspective.

“The best way to predict your future is to create it.” – Abraham Lincoln

Never has that saying by Lincoln been more true than today. Sometimes we sit around wondering, maybe even fearing what the future may hold for us. That is the wrong mindset. It is a passive mindset, the mindset of a victim. The future will not inflict itself upon you. In fact, you will inflict yourself upon the future. What you do with that opportunity to impact the future is up to you.

Some people spend a lot of time and energy trying to save time by finding shortcuts or taking shortcuts. That is usually wasted time. Things change and the future gets here because you make the changes happen. If you say, “I don’t like who I am.” Then change who you are. If you say, “I don’t like where I’m headed.” Then go in a different direction. Nothing is predetermined; everything is up to you.

“You are confined only be the walls that you build yourself” – Andrew Murphy

So, break out through whatever walls you have built for yourself and go explore new worlds – or not. Maybe it’s not new worlds that you need but the ability to see your current world differently.

“Discovery comes not from seeking new lands, but from seeing with new eyes” – Marcel Proust

Your challenge may be as simple as taking a fresh look with a fresh perspective on the life that you are already living. Hopefully that perspective will be from a positive angle. Try substituting love for anger, hope for despair, peace for turmoil and faith for fear and see if things don’t look a little different.

Once you can begin your journey into the future with a new attitude the most important thing will become persistence.

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. – Calvin Coolidge

Isn’t it amazing how many famous people went ahead of you and prepared the way? And don’t worry about making mistakes along the way.

A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. – George Bernard Shaw

So, use tomorrow to start a new beginning in your life. Last week is done and over. Yesterday is history and today will be soon. Whatever happened then is behind you. Look towards your future and get busy creating it.

Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you. – Jim Rohn

Have a great tomorrow and good luck on your journey into the future. I hope you make it all that you want it to be.


Don’t shake it off, laugh it off…

March 1, 2014

A person who knows how to laugh at himself will never cease to be amused. –Shirley MacLaine

I find that little quote to be particularly true. My wife and I often say about something bad or unexpected that just happened, “Someday we’ll look back on this an laugh.” We laugh a lot.

One must, of course, be serious most of the time; however, one mustn’t take oneself too seriously. I tend to react to unexpected things as they happen with some form of verbal expression, not always something that I would say out loud in polite company. I believe that is called an explanative, which is often deleted in stories that recount the incident. I find that almost immediately after such an outburst, I am amused by my reaction and have a quick chuckle at my own expense.

To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity. – William Arthur Ward

So, the next time that you do something really stupid or that something unexpected happens to you; see if blurting out “You knucklehead” or perhaps other words to that affect don’t relieve the tension of the moment and then allow you to laugh at yourself and the situation. It’s a way to acknowledge the situation and perhaps your poor decision making in laughingthat situation, but without beating yourself up too badly.

Being able to laugh at yourself is a form self-depreciation, but one that is usually harmless and isn’t a precursor to depression. In fact it is a good alternative to slipping into depression. Being amused by your situation or reaction to it is so much more health that being depressed by the same things. Others will also be more forgiving of the dumb things that you might do if you acknowledge them, own up to them and then have a good laugh about them. I’ll close this on this little quote that makes me feel better about the whole thing.

Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously. – Og Mandino

Remember to KCCO


Occasionally visit, but don’t live in the past…

February 24, 2014

I find myself occasionally using the phrase “in a prior life” in conjunction with explaining something in my past, such as my long career in the IT products and services business prior to getting into real estate (my current life). While it is just a little affectation (a throw away phrase, if you will), it does sum up nicely the fact that our past may be thought of almost like prior lives. Not of course in any Shirley McClain reincarnation way. Read more on that and her autobiography  here.

The real point is that all of that is in the past and we are and should focus upon living in the present and perhaps planning for the future. The past is a place that you might occasionally visit, especially if there are many pleasant memories that bring comfort when remembered; however, you can’t and shouldn’t live in the past. If you find yourself constantly revisiting the coulda, wouldda, shoulda’s of your life and beating yourself up over choices that you made back then, it’s time to shut those doors and move on.

thinking of the pastWe all have past lives, some with many more chapters than others. Some of those chapters were exciting and fun and some were perhaps frightening to remember.  Hopefully all of those chapters contributed something to the person that you are today and to the knowledge base upon which you now make decisions in your life.

There are memories of things that you’d love to do again, feelings that you enjoyed having and would like to have again; and there are the things that are filed away under the heading – NEVER again. Both sets of memories contributed to who you are now, but they do not define who you are now. They were stops along the journey to today. You did not get off at those stops, so don’t go back and spend time sitting in those stations.

One key to putting the past in its proper place in your life is planning – planning for today and for the future. The more that you focus upon what is just ahead and maybe just over the next hill, the less time that you have to wander back into the past. Your subconscious mind will sort out the things that you need to remember (good and bad) in order to make decisions about today and tomorrow without you spending time thinking about the past.

Once you start planning for upcoming events, your subconscious mind will move into viewing futureanticipating them and you’ll find that your conscious mind will tend to focus on that – what you can do to make this upcoming event the best that it can be. Planning and anticipation will lead to actions and pretty soon you’ll find yourself lost not in the past but in the future and that’s a much better place to be than trapped in the past.

So, if you must let your mind wander, point it to the future and not back into some dungeon from the past. Live in the present and plan for a better future – at least you can still do something about that. Have a great day today and plan for a great day tomorrow.


Allow joy in your life…

February 22, 2014

Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are. – Marianne Williamson

Every now and then (more often that I’d like to admit) my wife has to stop me in the middle of grousing about something and remind me of how good things really are. She takes time to enumerate the things that we have – a great home, two wonderful dogs to share it with, wonderful children and grandchildren who are nearby and most of all each other. She’ right, of course; and it does always work to get me out of whatever funk I’ve wandered into about something that has gone wrong or something that I wish I had but don’t.

One has only to watch the nightly news to see images of those in war-torn countries or starving in Africa to see people who are so much worse off than we are just because we haven’t got whatever the latest and greatest gadget is right now. Right here in America, we have only to look on the streets to see the homeless huddled in doorways or under bridges; yet we are miffed that we don’t have the most stylish pair of winter boots. Grumble, grumble, grouse, grouse. Poor me, look at all the things that I don’t have.

I think it’s important to give ourselves permission to be happy, to experience joy in our lives by recognizing how good things really are for most of us. The fact that we have someplace with access to read these blog posts is a good thing. The fact than most of us are not hungry or cold while doing that is a good thing. The fact that most of us have clothes and shoes on is a good thing. The fact that we woke up this morning is a good thing (more so the older I get). The fact that many of us have family and friends who love us is a good thing. So, take stock of all the good things in your life and allow yourself the joy that comes along with that.

Amazing things happen to those who allow joy to rule their lives. They look happy because they are happy. People want to be their friend because they are happy and people prefer being around happy people. They achieve greater business success, because people prefer to do business with someone who is smiling and happy. They have a better home life, because spouses and children much prefer a happy partner/parent than that grousing old grump that you sometimes can become. So, allow joy in your life. Be happy about what you do have and not grumpy about what you don’t have.

Finally, it is important to keep in mind that Joy is a choice and …

“Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen

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Who really cares…Why do I write?

February 21, 2014

One of the age old questions for writers and bloggers is “Why?” Why do I write? Who really cares? I may have 20 -40 -100 followers on various blogs; is that who I’m writing for? Am I creating prose and blasting it into a great unknown void called the blog-o-sphere in hopes that someone finds it, like finding a note in a bottle that has washed up on shore? Does that make sense? Does the Internet make sense? Does anything about writing and posting to blogs make sense?  Must it?

One can make the case, that Arianna Huffington started this way, so why not me. Of course, then one could look at the amazing success of Adam Kutcher, who garnered over a million followers on Facebook in a short period of time and ask “Can there be that many lonely, bored and pathetic people who need to know what Adam Kutcher thinks about anything?”

So, millions upon millions of the rest of us blog away in total anonymity; posting into the wind, in hopes that someone, somewhere will see it and perhaps even read what we have written.  To have our posts read; perchance to even have a comment posted; what joy.  But then, one must be willing also to put up with the tons of spam and trash ads that are sent your way by every yahoo (no offense Yahoo) who ever took a t quick course on SEO optimization and now positions himself as an expert. A thousand idiots will email assure you that they can help you make money from blogging and ten thousand more try to sell you their services to improve your obviously struggling little blog. There aren’t enough rocks to hide all of the slimy little characters out there just waiting to pounce upon the poor little bloggers who fantasy themselves to be authors.

So let me give you this piece of advice for free.  You are an author if you write. You may be a crappy one, but at least you are one.  If you have something to say; say it. If you care about what others think of what you have to say or how you say it; ask someone that you trust, and who has the ability to render a valid and educated opinion, to look at your work and make suggestions. Understand your limits, but work at it like you would work at anything else.

The next thing to consider is that what you are writing about must matter somehow to the reader. I don’t care (nor does anyone else) about what you had for breakfast or where you went last night (unless, of course you have a great story about what happened last night). I’m more inclined to read about your opinion of something that is affecting both of us and something that you’ve been through that I’m still facing. Tell me something that I can learn from your experiences or maybe just something that I’ll enjoy reading, get a chuckle out of or shed a tear about.

Lastly trust that your message in a bottle will wash up on some distance shores and be read. I  get comments on my blogs all the time from all over the world.  Most were written in native languages of the countries that the readers liven in and most have suffered greatly in the translation. The translations of some are humorous and some just make no sense, but most have this in common – they are from someone who read what I wrote.

So back to the beginning; why do I write? I write because I enjoy it. I hope others will enjoy it, too; but just the fact that I wrote it and posted it and sent it on its way into the blog-o-sphere is enough for me. Somewhere out there someone will see it and perhaps read it and maybe even comment on it; but I’ll be smiling just because I wrote it. For some there is no reward without accolades, but, I suspect for many of us writers in the blog-o-sphere, it is enough reward just to have written it in the first place. That’s what allows you to call yourself a writer.