I like the graphic below that was in an email that I got recently…
I think too many people (especially the young) wander around in life professing that they are trying to “find themselves”. That is such a passive cop-out to making the effort required to be (create) yourself. Life isn’t just a passive thing that you just experience as it happens. Living is an active verb and to live life to the fullest one must take actions to make it what you want it to be. Create yourself.
If you want life to be more interesting and fulfilling, you must do things that are more interesting and fulfilling, to create a “you” that is more interesting and fulfilled. That is an active approach to life. Another cop-out is allowing yourself to be labeled and then accepting those labels and allowing them to dictate your life. That seems to me to be surrendering to a “victim” complex about life – the “poor me, life is so unfair” approach. Don’t go there. Create yourself.
A key to taking a more active, positive and fulfilling view of life is to first accept the wisdom of this quote from the Jack’s Winning Words blog today – “One of the happiest moments in life is when you have the courage to let go of what you can’t change.” (Lessons Learned in Life, Inc) Have courage. Create yourself.
Many of us (I too often must include myself in this group) spend entirely too much time wrestling with issues or problems that we cannot change, especially in remorse over things that have already happened. It’s over, let it go and move on. Learn from the past, don’t dwell in it. Create yourself.
Some spend so much time worrying about possible negative outcomes of future events that they don’t have time for the here and now. If we let worry about possible negative outcomes stop us from acting, we will be forever stuck in the past. “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” (T.S. Eliot) Create yourself.
Perhaps if one starts each day with some new goal in mind – maybe making a new friend or trying a new food or going to a new place – you will find at the end of the day that you have created a new person, one with new experiences and knowledge. A new you. Try it.
Forget about finding yourself. Create yourself.
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Some people need help in seeing themselves in a positive way. Who (what) HELPS YOU?