Just say it…

In yesterday’s post to his blog, Jack’s Winning Words, Pastor Freed reminds us not to hesitate to say nice things to people with this quote – “Why do we have to wait for special moments to say nice things or tell people we care about them?”  (Randy Milholland)

I suspect that we are embarrassed, or think we would be, if we just blurted out a complement to someone that we met during the day (t least men might be). Telling someone that they look nice or that they are wearing a nice outfit shouldn’t be embarrassing to you or to them. Nike uses the tag line, “Just do it”; perhaps, if a compliment comes to mind when we are with someone, we should all use the tag line, “Just say it”.

We don’t seem to be embarrassed asking them the largely rhetorical question, “How are you?” or maybe “How’s it going?” Those are certainly more intrusive questions into the person’s personal life than just saying, “You look great today.” Just say it…

Of course, men have to be careful with complements that could be taken the wrong way by a woman. She may think that he is fliting with her or hitting on her. It is even more difficult to express that we care about a woman friend or acquaintance in a way that cannot be mistaken for an inappropriate remark. Things have gotten much more difficult of late, with all the revelations in the news about inappropriate behaviors, but we cannot let that stop us. Just say it…

Parents shouldn’t wait for special moments, like a graduation ceremony to tell their children that they are proud of them. We toss off air kisses and “I love you” without putting a lot of meaning behind either. We should take every opportunity that we can to let our kids and grandkids know that we recognize their accomplishments and that we are proud of them. Just say it…

Husbands and wives also need to be more cognizant of and appreciative of their mates and let them know it through compliments. Everyone loves to be appreciated, especially for the little things that they do that usually go unnoticed or at least not verbally recognized.  Rather than just sit there at the dinner table wolfing down the meal, take a moment to thank your mate for making it and maybe mention how nice it is to come home from work to them each day (now that we actually get to go to work again). Just say it…

Make it a habit to find something each day to compliment your significant other about. That will force you to stop, think and take notice of them and your home environment. It may even cause you to think about how you can help them with some of the things that they (and wouldn’t that be a good thing?). Just say it…

If you make it a practice to find something nice to say to or about each person that you meet during the day, I suspect that you will find life to be a much brighter and happier experience. Just say it…

One Response to Just say it…

  1. John Freed says:

    There are soooooo many compliments that I could give you!!!!!! I think that you might be embarrassed.

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