I attended a very good real estate training session last week, put on my Steve Woodruff of The Woodruff Group. Steve is a well-known in the real estate world as a great motivational speaker and trainer. I came away with enough sayings from that session to last me a long time here, especially when I combine them with things that I get from Jack Freed in his blog Jack’s Winning Words.
One of the first good quotes from Steve was this one – “How would the person that I would like to be do what I’m about to do?” Some might try to substitute the little phrase “What would Jesus do?”, but I submit that doing so abstracts the process too much. These are our decisions to make and it is up to us to make them. Perhaps a better way to phrase that last saying might be to ask yourself, “What would a person who follows the teachings of Jesus do?” That at least brings us full-circle back to thinking about the person that we’d like to be – a person who follows the teachings of Jesus.
Bringing up thinking leads us to a little quote from Jack’s blog –
“Many problems in life are caused because we act without thinking or because we think without acting.” (Unknown)
How often do we see an injustice or someone in need and just pass the situation by, thinking that we don’t have time for that right now? That leads to the second quote from Jack’s blog –
“How soon, not now, becomes never!” – Martin Luther
Perhaps the situation is one that requires that you break away a bit from the norm and go against the stream of what appears to be commonly accepted practice. That requires courage and a strong belief that what you are about to do is the right thing, the thing that the person that you wish to be would do. Steve had a great quote for that –
“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it’s conformity.” – Rollo May
It takes courage to stand up for the person being bullied. It takes courage to befriend the person in your class who is “different”. It takes courage to stop hiding in the closet and come out and live the life that you were born to live. It takes courage to admit that you need help and seek it. It takes courage to stand on the opposite side of the police line and protest the treatment of people of color or ethnicity. It takes courage to stand up and say that I will not be treated like an object anymore or take any more of your abuse. It takes courage to decide that you are not going to continue to “go along to get along” anymore. Be the person that you would like to be and act now, before “not now” becomes never in your life.
Many people like to play the role of the victim. They are constantly complaining about what others have done to them or done that holds them back. Steve had a great quote for that, too.
Do not complain about what you permit – Anon
I found a great follow-on to that quote – No one can “walk all over you” unless you lay down and let them. – Maria Moore
The point to both quotes is that you control what happens to you – the situations that you get yourself into and the reactions that you have to them. Ask yourself how the person that you would like to be would act and react in those situations. Would that person show courage or cowardice? Would that person act without thinking or think about it without acting and perhaps let not now become never?
A great way to start off this week is to take a moment before you dive into your normal workday life and think about another short series of quotes from Steve Woodruff –
Success is a choice not a circumstance – make the choice and act upon it
Take Responsibility – It’s your life and no one else can live it for you and make the decisions for you unless you lay down and let then walk over you
Attack your Fears – Fears, uncertainty and doubts are just temporary roadblocks that life throws up in front of us. Do not let them stop you. Attacked them, overcome them and move on.
Invent your Future – Become that person that you would like to be and you will have the life that you’ve dreamed of living.
Have a great week ahead.