“It’s sad when someone you know becomes some you knew.” (Henry Rollins) from the Jack’s Winning words blog.
Last week many people spent time remembering Robin Williams; but, all of us have memories of someone we knew. Many times those people are still alive, but just not in or life anymore. Maybe you or they moved or maybe the two of you just drifted away in different directions and now don’t associate. Things like that happen, but we still have memories of them that we may revisit from time to time.
Sometimes debilitating diseases like Alzheimer’s or even depression can take away the person that we used to know, leaving only our memories of the person that we knew. In situations like that we have to try harder to get to know the person that remains; sometimes because they need us even more now than they did before.
Sometimes life changes like divorce take people out of our lives; many times for the better, at least temporarily. By the time that happens, the person that we thought we knew was probably long gone and the person that we now know just isn’t someone that you can’t live with. It’s sad, but maybe, over time, you’ll heal and have fond memories of the person that you knew.
Sometimes life-changes , like graduating from school, getting out of the service, or changing jobs takes you away from the people that you knew. At the time it may be intensely painful because th4ese are the people that gave meaning to your life at the time and whatever awaits you in your new life is still unknown.
We tend to remember celebrities who pass away by the events that we experienced that they were a part of – movies, live shows, sports event, etc. We didn’t really “know” them, but they were a part of our life and hopefully one that you will retain good memories of for the rest of your life. Being a little older now, I have memories of celebrities that I knew growing up that more than half of the current population never saw or experienced in person – early TV comics like Sid Caeser, Red Skelton, Milton Berle, Jack Benny and Jackie Gleason were long gone before there were more than just three TV channels to choose from. There are tons of TV and movie stars whose best works were over before the 1970’s and who now live in memories or late-night re-runs.
It is a bit sad to contemplate people and even pets that we once knew, especially if they were significant in our life and not just an acquaintance or someone that we saw on TV or the screen. What makes it sad is that we miss the interactions that we might have had with them; the conversations or doing things together. The good news is that the memories that you have of your times together will remain and you can revisit them as often as you like. It seems to me that, over time, it is only the good times and good things that one remembers about most people who have departed; although some are only remembered for the infamy of the bad that they did.
Still, we should hold on to the good memories that we have of people that we knew. We should call those memories up from time to time to remind us that we did have some time together and that those were good times. Yes it is sad that they are gone, but there is some happiness in the fact that they are not forgotten.
Someday we will all just be memories to others; let’s hope and work to make sure that we are fond memories. When someday they say,”I knew him/her”, let that memory bring a smile to their face. I hope that someday, in the future, people will remember me and say, with a smile on their face; he made me laugh.
So go out and create a great memory of you for someone today.