“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby
I certainly can relate to this little saying attributed to Bill Cosby. I’m the type of person that doesn’t really like conflict and sometimes that can result in trying to please everyone in a situation that ends up pleasing no one. I’ve written here before about trying to find a win-win solution to things that crop up in my real estate business. The same is general y true of how I approach conflicts in life; however, sometimes that is not possible and I must come down on one side or the other in a disagreement.
I’ve known people who just couldn’t bring themselves to take a side or to say no to someone. They were trying to please everyone and usually ended up making everyone unhappy with them. It is important not to be closed minded, but there are many things that you need to have an opinion about that may not please everyone. There are also people whom you just can’t please, no matter what; and wasting too much time trying with them is just that – a waste of your time. Successful people can make those calls and move on in life without agonizing over them or beating themselves up because they didn’t please everyone.
So, perhaps you can try to accommodate everyone, as best as you can; or maybe you can at least tolerate
everyone, even in the face of rebuke or anger; but, don’t try to please everyone. That’s a fool’s game at which you cannot win.