Today’s saying was embedded within other comments in the Jack’s Winning Words blog.
“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ― Elbert Hubbard
Most of us have friends like that, for some it is our spouse and maybe a few others. These are people that we don’t have to be “guarded” around. We can just be comfortable being ourselves and knowing that these people know us well enough to understand and accept the good, bad and ugly about us and still be our friends. Now, of course, if you have enough bad and ugly going on you may even drive most of these people away.
Guys tend to have buddies and women seem to have friends. I’m not completely sure where the distinction lies, but I suspect it’s in how much is really shared. Guys tend to remain guarded even around their buddies; whereas women who are friends get the full load of sharing, hugging, crying and other emotions and displays that go along with true friendship.
There’s likely something very therapeutic and healthy about being able to get to that level with a friend that guys seldom experience. Perhaps the old deer camp thing comes close, but that’s more about getting the chance to let loose and act a bit silly. I suspect that some of the shared experiences of soldiers in a war zone also come close. Nothing turns a buddy into a friend faster than sharing a few firefights together.
Think about the people that you know, and know well enough to know all about them and still love them. These are your friends. If you haven’t talked to them lately, give them a call. Having real, live friends like that is much more important than having a bunch of people whom you may barely know “Friend” you on Facebook. Keep your true friendships alive.