Sometimes the simplest little things can have big impact on our lives. In this series of posts I examine very short sentences (each just three words long) that can make a difference in your life. If you have a three word sentence that changed your life somehow, share it with me and I will share it with the world.
In yesterday’s post I talked about facing the world with a “Bring it on” attitude. Today let’s look at one thing positive that you can do when you go into the day with that kind of positive approach. In previous posts I discussed being at peace by letting things be. I also wrote about taking action to solve your problems or reaching out to others to help with their problems.
Today let’s talk about taking responsibility to get something done for yourself or for others. We are all witnesses to many cases of need in other people. For the most part those instances are fleeting. They pass by us or we pass by them and the moment is
quickly lost to take any action or to offer help. It can be really little things, like not holding a door open for someone with their arms full of packages at the Post Office or maybe not stopping to fish the change out of your pocket as you scurry by the Salvation Army Kettle at Christmas. How hard would it have been to stop and help? It starts by saying to yourself, “I’ve got this.”
Maybe you’ve been to a funeral visitation and overheard someone in the family worrying out loud about who will walk their dog today or get in their mail. Perhaps you’ve driven by an elder care facility and seen a lonely face starting out the window at passing cars, in hopes that there might be a visitor in one. It could be that your neighbor next door is going on vacation or maybe into the hospital and needs someone to watch their cat and get in their mail. In those cases, what stopped you from going up to them and saying don’t worry, “I’ve got this”?
Closer to home, do you stop and think about the things that your partner does for you every day? Have you ever felt like helping but didn’t know where to start? It doesn’t always have to be something big. Maybe you can carry a load of laundry upstairs. Maybe you can make the bed some mornings, rather than just walking out knowing that it will somehow get made before it’s time to get back in it tonight. Maybe you can volunteer to watch the kids so that they can get a nice peaceful bath or go shopping. It starts by finding something, anything, and saying, “I’ve got this.”
Amazing things happen in your life once you get over the “Aww, Geeze, do I have to” stage that prevents you from acting to help others that you know need your help. There is a sense of accomplishment and well-being that comes from selfless acts of serving others. You will not get that feeling from buying another golf club or another pair of shoes. You get that feeling of pride and satisfaction only by reaching beyond your own needs and meeting the needs of others. Some call it finding purpose in your life. Whatever you call it, it begins by seeing a need and saying, “I’ve got this.”
This only works if you follow through. It is sometimes easy to say, “Yeah, I’ll be there” when someone calls to ask for help; but if you don’t actually show up you get no satisfaction from having made that empty promise and you certainly didn’t make them happy by just saying that you’d help.. So, today’s three word phrase is really about a commitment that you make to yourself and to the other person. You are not saying, “I’ll try” or “Maybe” or “If I get a chance.” You are committing that, “I’ve got this.”
Don’t say it if you don’t mean it.