4. it’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives. – Unknown
There’s also a saying that ignorance is bliss. I don’t think that’s really true. In the case of today’s saying ignorance (in this case, not knowing what you’ve been missing) might just be the absence of dissatisfaction, which is really not the same as bliss.
We all have many “Oh, crap” moments in life when we ask ourselves, “Why did I let him/her go? What was thinking when I gave that away? How could I not have wanted to do that? So whether it is a blown relationship, the loss of a possession of maybe just missing an opportunity that we had; sometimes we don’t stop and think about things until it’s too late and they are gone. You don’t get do-overs in life. If you’re lucky, you may be given a second chance.
So the message is not so much just hold on to what you’ve got; but, rather to appreciate what you’ve got enough that you’ll want to hold in to it or him or her. All too often we lose something or someone because we haven’t taken time to realize its/their value in our lives. Especially in the case of people, sometimes it’s not that we don’t love them; it’s that we don’t show them that love and they just wander off thinking that we don’t love them.
Things sometimes wither and die or rust away if they are not cared for regularly. The same happens with relationships. Left alone on a dark corner or ignored and left un-nurtured even the best relationships will eventually wither and die. Take stock of what and who you have and be thankful and attentive to the needs of both.
As for the joy of discovering something new when it arrives; many times the excitement is increased if that something new that has arrived opens up new vistas in your life. You hear that said a lot from new parents about their babies. Until they have their own baby in the family the concept was there intellectually, but the reality was someone else’s – a friend or other family member, maybe. Most of the time new parents will admit later that they had no real idea what an impact having a baby would have on their lives and how much joy that could bring. As you get older, and your babies are gone, a new puppy can sometimes serve the same purpose. There’s nothing like a little puppy breath to re-kindle those dormant parenting emotions. In cases of both babies and puppies, you may find yourself asking, “Why did I wait so long to do this?”
Prior to those experiences, perhaps it was the arrival of your soul mate into your life that you didn’t know that you were missing. You will often hear in wedding vows some variation of the phrase, “you make me complete.” It wasn’t that you weren’t happy before; but, for many there may have been a nagging feeling of incompleteness, the sense that somehow things weren’t quite right in your life, or maybe a gnawing emptiness that could not be filled by possessions or friends or pastimes.
Then along comes your soul mate and all is right with the world. You didn’t know what you were missing; you just knew it was something or someone. Now, you don’t know how you’d live without him/her. Just work hard at it so that don’t go back to the start of today’s little quote and lose what you’ve just found.