Upcoming events in the Milford, Michigan area

February 6, 2013

It’s winter and in Michigan that means it’s cold; but, that doesn’t mean that there’s nothing to do, especially in Milford and the Huron Valley area. There are several upcoming events for charitable causes that will be fun and help raise much needed money for worthwhile causes.

The first is this week, Thursday, Feb 7. The annual Taste of the Valley is the primary fund raising event for he Huron Valley Youth Assistance Program. The HVYA program, which is run in waiter with foodMilford and Highland Townships, has as its goal assisting “at risk” youth of the area. The risk is that they will pursue a path of juvenile delinquency that will inevitably lead to worse behavior later on in life. The HVYA Program provides counseling and other activities to encourage and support the youth to take a different path.

The Taste of the Valley will take place at Bakers of Milford starting at 7 pm and will feature food samples from some of the top restaurants in the area. There will also be a raffle and a silent auction for gift baskets that have been donated for this cause. Tickets are $20 in advance (you can get them at either Township office) or $25 at the door.

In Valentine’s Day, Feb 14, the Community Sharing Outreach organization has organized an event that they call Food from the Heart. This event will take place in Downtown Milford and features live music at all of the participating venues. Many stores and restaurants are Community Sharing logoparticipating. You can see the list by clicking here to view the poster. As with most Community Sharing event, your “ticket” to get into this event is a can of food or box of non-perishable food (of course a cash donation is always welcomed). You can stroll through downtown and stop off in participating shops and restaurants to listen to the music and enjoy your shopping or dining. For a list of performers at the various locations, click here.

In support of the Food from the Heart event, the Milford YMCA is having a Parent Night Out for children so parents can attend this fun event. Please call the Y to register call 248-714-4412 and it is $13.00 an hour for Y members and $17.00 an hour for non-members. So, plan on dropping the kids off at the Y and then enjoying a night of music and fun in Downtown Milford in support of a good cause.

laugh-smallThen, on Feb 16 there is LAUGHS AT THE LEGION – at the American Legion Hall, Milford. 5 pm the doors open, optional burger and fries meal available for $7 and a cash bar. The Comedy Show starts at 7 pm. Tickets are $15 in advance or $20 at the door. This event benefits the Highland-White Lake Business Association Scholarship Fund and the summer-time Sparks in the Park event.

Finally, Oakpoint Church on Milford’s South side (on South Hill Rd) is hosting Milford’s Beast Feast on Feb 236 – 9 pm at Oakpoint Church a pot luck dinner for hunters from the area. Bring a wild (or tame) game dish to pass – some other food will be supplied. Exchange stories with fellow hunters, plus a raffle and other competition. Tickets are $5. For more information go to the Oakpoint Web site.

There are also some upcoming free community events, which are just held to have fun and don’t raise money for any group.

The first is the Milford Community Snow Day – Feb 9 – 4 pm until 6 pm, in Milford Central Park – If our crazy winter weather cooperates there will be Ice Skating/ & a Figure Skating demo, Winter Crafts, Winter Games, Snowshoeing, Sled Dogs, Voyage in Time Re-enactment, Bonfire, Cocoa & Cookies, fun for the whole family. Click here to view the poster for this event.??????????????????????????????????????

There are also the Daddy-Daughter Dance and the Mother-Son Dance on Feb 16 – 7 – 9 pm – sponsored by Huron Valley Recreation & Community Education. The Daddy-Daughter dance will be at Milford High School and the Mother-Son Dance at Heritage Elementary School. $25 per couple for residents, $35 per couple for non residents. $10 for each additional daughter. Click here to see the registration form for both dances.

I never realized…

February 5, 2013

From the Jack’s Winning Words blog comes this bit of wisdom – “Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, or a stranger.” (Franklin P. Jones). Perhaps we all have trouble accepting constructive criticism from anyone. It’s “shields up” time whenever one senses incoming criticism, whether giving to be constructive or not.

I suppose the most helpful attitude one can adopt is to start by realizing and admitting that we are not perfect; that there are always going to be things that we could improve upon. The next thing to keep in mind is that you are hearing someone else’s perspective on something in your life or mannerisms that affects or has an effect on others. People don’t usually comment on things that only affect you; unless they see them as self-destructive and they’re try to help you before you hurt yourself.

Sometimes the things that someone else may comment upon are things that you have no way of seeing yourself. I have a “friend” who admonishes me to smile whenever he sees me. He tells me no one likes to meet a person with a frown on their face. Now, I know that I’m not purposely frowning; that is just the normal demeanor that my face shows when I’m relaxed and not necessarily trying to show any emotion. I really have to work at remembering to smile. I’ve even noted in a mirror that when I think I’m smiling, all I’ve done is wipe the frown off my face and returned it to a neutral look (at least non-threatening and not frown-y).

My wife is always telling me – “Don’t be so negative all the time.” I’m not really a negative person, but my sense of humor makes its first reach towards the negative view of things. I have to watch that, too. That’s another of those things that is hard to see from the inside. The line between funny and cynical is very fine.

I suppose that one should take this topic the other way and say that, if no one is offering you any criticism, go ask for some. Ask what could I have done better to serve you or how can I be a better husband or wife or boss or employee. Sometimes that will open a floodgate of pent-up critiques; but better to get those criticisms out than to let them continue to build up and fester in that person. Sometimes, I suspect, we don’t ask those questions because we don’t want to hear the answers – we don’t want the criticism.

The most honest and oft used immediate response to criticism is, “Wow, I never realized!” If you had realized, would you have changed? That’s the real question. I think most would answer, “Well, yeah; I don’t want to be perceived that way.” So, don’t approach this from the perspective of “What’s wrong with me?” Rather, take the view, “How can I be a better person by doing something differently?” That way you can make a win out of taking the criticism to heart and making those changes. Start by asking someone that you are working with or for, “How am I doing or what can I be doing differently to be better?” Then drop the shields, listen and take action to make corrections. And, make sure to thank that person for their honest and helpful input. That will make it a win-win situation. So, go ahead, make my day and tell me I need to smile.

With tongue firmly in cheek…Anon the worlds greatest writer

February 3, 2013

This post originally appeared on one of my blogs in October of 2007.

I have long been a fan of the world’s most prolific writer – Anon. You see his work everywhere and the breadth and volume of works attributed to him is quite amazing: although these days he often writes under the pseudonym Unknown (Unk for short).  Thus, I was more than just amused when I “Googled”  Anon.

The scholarly dissertation written in 1983 by Donald E. Simanek at the end of this link (http://www.lhup.edu/~dsimanek/anon.htm) was one of the returns from that search. It turned out a rich and full history of Anon, a man and family worthy of great respect. Mentioned in the dissertation is his contemporary Ibid; who, rightfully so, was dismissed as more of a hanger on to Anon and other great writers of the times. Another Anon contemporary – Nobody – later had a minor role in the comic strips as a character in the “Family Circus” strip. Members of the Anon family have perhaps been attributed with more contributions to literature over the centuries that any other writers, as well as countless sayings.

A short excerpt from the above mentioned work on Anon’s life –

“Few literary puzzles have inspired such universal apathy as the question: “Who was Anon?” Books no image availableof quotations are cluttered with sayings attributed to Anon, and these scraps of truth and wisdom have earned Anon universal recognition and immortality. Innumerable biographies have been written about lesser authors, even authors so obscure that their works are seldom read. But Anon, though widely read and widely quoted, has been accorded only widespread indifference by the literary community.

What little we know of Anon’s life is of doubtful validity. We have no authentic picture of Anon, nor any first hand description of him by anyone who would admit to having known him. Not one scrap of original manuscript in his own hand has survived the ravages of time. Scholars have given up hope of ever discovering an autobiography of Anon in some dusty attic.

Yet, from the available dearth of evidence, we can piece together a sketch (albeit apocryphal) of this prolific genius. We know that Anon’s wisdom appeared very early in history. When references to him are traced backward in time, in the general direction towards the emergence of civilization, they lead us to a blank wall. This suggests that Anon must be placed in historical times so ancient as to predate the emergence of intelligent thought. He was certainly ahead of his time, which may be the reason why none of his contemporaries knew of him.”

There is much more about the Anon family at the site referenced above with the link and I encourage you to visit it to get more insight into Anon the legend behind the myth.

anonymous women outlineIf you spend any time looking through the bibliographies of much of out literature you will not only see many references to Anon, but also to an off-shoot branch of the Anon family the Ibid’s. Apparently one of the Anon daughters apparently married into the Ibid family which was well known for doing research. The Ibids often collaborated on literary works with Anons and other great writers of ancient times, thus started a livelong collaboration between the Ibids and the Anons, which you will see in the many references to Ibid in bibliographies of books attributed to Anon. To a lesser extent another branch of the Anon family from the Middle East, the Id’s, also show up in attributions for many literary works. One can find references and attributions to the Anon, Ibid and Id families throughout the bibliographies of historic literature. A lesser known branch of the family, the Op Cit clan, was less prolific in their contributions and is much more obscure.

In these current times, when we have Wiki’s and Blogs and other electronic communications means the influence of the Anon family has waned a bit in literature; however, a new, more tech-savvy branch has emerged as a group of hackers, using the full, old family name Anonymous.anonymous man outline With their hack attacks, they are perhaps striking back at the very Internet that so threatens their world of literature and books.

Still the literary branch of the Anon family soldiers on; now focused mostly on writing Letters to the editor of various papers or posting remarks to various blogs and on-line bulletin board sites. So the next time that you see a letter to the editor printed or a blog post that is signed Anon. you will better appreciate the long history of this great literary family.

Icy Fun Day at Kensington Metropark

February 2, 2013

Wow, kids, what fun! Today in Kensington Metropark you can explore the exciting world of ice fishing and see how the ice was harvested for use around the turn of the century.ice fishing

I’ll bet dad would love to take you ice fishing today. Mom might love that, too. Explore the thrill of sitting on a frozen lake for hours looking into a small hole in the ice. Feel the exhilaration of catching and  pulling your first 5-inch long pan fish out through that hole. Maybe mom will cook up your catch for dinner tonight.

After that maybe you can go watch the ice harvesting demonstration and see how the lake ice was sawed out and hauled away to coolers in the winter. Maybe you can pull a block of ice off the lake and take home an ice-cube of your own to store in your freezer at home.

For the times and any costs involved see the Upcoming Community Events calendar at www.movetomilford.com and remember that if you are over 17, you’ll need a fishing license to join dad out on the ice. Tell dad to bring money, since there is a cost of $5 for each person fishing. He might want to bring some hot cocoa, too. Be sure to bundle up, because it’s cold out there on the ice.

You and dad are sure to have lots to talk about. Maybe he’ll tell you about when his dad took him out ice fishing. Just don’t believe the story when he tells you about the three-foot long fish he caught that day.

Have a happy, icy day at Kensington Metropark.