Remember to forget…

October 11, 2023

From a post to the Blog, Jack’s Winning Words, originally made on January 17,  2020 –

“Not the power to remember, but the very opposite…the power to forget…is a necessary condition for our existence.”  (Sholem Asch) I’ve read that the average computer has from 4 to 32 gigabytes of memory compared to the brain’s 1 million gigabytes. Unbelievable! (but I read it on the internet). In order to function in society, we have to forget certain words or actions and move on. Even the best of us, at times, can be the worst of us. Did God say “Forgive and forget?” 😉  Jack

Jack’s words fit nicely with this graphic that I recently got in a daily email.

Forgetting is a way of letting go. Perhaps the advice is not aimed so much as forgetting altogether something that has happened, but rather forgetting our reaction to the event, especially if that reaction was driven by fear or anger or prejudice. Sometimes what you need to forget is blaming yourself for that event. Let go today…

Time spent reliving the past is not time spent in the present or in planning for the future; it is just time wasted. The only thing that past failures or hardships hold of any value is perhaps a lesson for the future on what not to do again. Let go today…

Beating yourself up for a poor decision yesterday just wastes time that you could be spending on making a better decision today. Let go today…

Wasting time trying to find someone else to blame means moving sideways or backwards, but not making progress forward. Let go today…

So, remember to forget. Feel those moments of disappointment, pain or sorrow and then move on. Find a place to put that memory and then close the door on it. Let go today…

It may help you, as it so often helps me, to say this little prayer – “Not my will but thy will be done.” Yo will be amazed at the power that this short prayer has to set you free. Let go today…


Traveling light helps in life, too…

October 13, 2014

Air travelers would probably be quick to tell you that traveling light, without a lot of baggage, is the best way to man with heavy bagget through the airports. The advice to travel light, without a bunch of baggage, also works well for life.

In today’s post at the Jack’s Winning Words blog, Jack posted a yard sign that he recently saw – “Forgive, forget and move on!”  (Front-yard sign)

Many of us tend to travel through life with way too much emotional baggage in tow.  We insist on carrying around remorse, anger, hate, envy, sadness, and more. No wonder it takes us forever to get though the security checkpoints of life.

lifes stormsThe weight of all of this baggage not only slows us down, it effects how others look at us and deal with us. That weight tends to curl your lips down, into a frown, or case such a pall over our faces that we constantly look mad or sad. Beyond just how we look, the weight of all of that negative baggage can lead to depression; and continuing down that path leads to no good.

So, what are we to do? The advice that Jack saw on the yard sign is as good start. Whatever the wrong that you feel was committed against you; forgive the person for whom you are currently carrying the baggage of anger, hate, envy or revenge. Put that baggage down, forget about it and move on. If you are carrying the baggage of remorse for something that you did, make it right or apologize or just file away the lesson learned and forget about it and move on.

The baggage of sadness is oft the hardest to put down, especially the sadness of a the loss of a loved one. One dreams
must try to replace that baggage with the lighter and easier to live with memories of the good times when that person was still here. It’s OK to keep those bags of good memories with you the rest of your life. In fact get them out from time to time when you need to put a smile on your face.

As you start out on another week of life’s journey, check your baggage to see what you are carrying with you. Make sure to leave the negative baggage behind. Start by forgiving, forgetting about it and then you can move on. I think that you’ll find that traveling lighter makes your life more fun. I’m pretty sure that others will better appreciate taking a seat next to you on the journey, if they see that you don’t have a ton of emotional baggage stuffed under your seat.

Max Lucado put it well when he said – “The burlap bag of worry. Cumbersome. Chunky. Unattractive. Scratchy. Hard to get a handle on. Irritating to carry and impossible to give away. No one wants bag with goodbyeyour worries.” In fact, no one other than you wants to share your emotional baggage; so get rid of it before you set out on this week’s journey.

Forgive, forget and have a great trip!